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We both are in a relationship, but I like him, but I don't know if he likes me!

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Question - (31 January 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 1 February 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, *ovebug72 writes:

I like this guy but he has a girlfriend, and I have a boy friend, but I think he likes me but sometimes leaving me confused.When I look at him I quickly catch a glance of him looking at me but then turns away. Then he gave my friend hes mobile number to give to me, but then when I pulled him up on it why he did not text me he said because of hes gf finding out wich was understandable. Then I went up to him said why did you give it to me knowing you might get into trouble and he said no I did not give it to you, your friend there gave it to you, but he kept smiling and laughing with it. Then said to me he doesnt give out hes number to anyone . Then days goes on when he there giving me the eye again and he mate asked my mate a question saying what one out you three girls fancies him, but my mate said no one. now what do I make out of all of this?

He has not done or said nothing to me yet but just keep looking at me.

I do like him and If I did get with him I will tell the person im with someone else as i dont cheat .

Thank you

Katie

(Mod note: This was tagged as cheating because of the possibility that this may occur in a situation where two people relationships like someone else. )

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A female reader, k_c100 United Kingdom +, writes (1 February 2012):

k_c100 agony auntSo you are willing to dump your boyfriend for this other guy? Why are you still with your boyfriend if you have stronger feelings for other men? This really doesnt make sense to me, even if you are not planning to cheat you clearly dont care much about your boyfriend because you would drop him for another man. I dont understand why you would waste your poor boyfriend's time if you are willing to leave him at the drop of a hat, clearly he is just Mr Right Now rather than Mr Right - he is only good enough to keep you occupied until a better guy comes along.

You cannot treat your boyfriend like this, and you absolutely cannot stay with him. I think if he knew how much time you were spending obsessing about this other guy then you would be out of the door, he wouldnt want to be with someone that spends all of her time thinking about other men and exchanging phone numbers with them.

Leave your boyfriend - even if you dont end up with this other guy you clearly dont love him enough to stay with him, so its not fair to waste his time when you dont want to be with him that much.

As for the guy you are interested in - it sounds like he might be attracted to you yes, but there is a massive difference between being attracted to someone and then acting upon that. He has a girlfriend and he isnt even willing to text you because he doesnt want to upset his girlfriend, it is pretty clear he is not going to act on any feelings he has because he keeps talking about his girlfriend. He obviously cares for her otherwise he wouldnt care what she thinks about him texting another woman, so it seems from the outside their relationship is good and he wont be leaving her any time soon.

I suggest that you forget about him, he isnt a good choice of potential partner. Leave your boyfriend so he can be happy with a woman who really loves him. And then find a single man who you are crazy about, someone you wont even dream of leaving for another man.

Relationships are not only there until something better comes along, and you really need to learn this otherwise you will spend the rest of your life going from one man to another.

I hope this helps and good luck!

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (1 February 2012):

tennisstar88 agony auntIt's a possibility. You don't know unless you keep on toying with him. But I'd suggest breaking up with your boyfriend since you're not giving the relationship you're 100% attention.

I understand you won't cheat on your boyfriend. But will you engage in cheating with this guy on his girlfriend?? Because it doesn't sound like he has any intention of dumping her. Unless of course you're ok with being a side dish.

There's a few things you have to overcome here..

1. Finding out if he's really into you.

2. Change your relationship status to single.

3. And get him to dump his girlfriend.

Then it's all systems go. But it's NOT going to be easy.

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