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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I was seeing someone for a couple of months but they had to end it. She was having problems in her life and trying to start a relationship on top of it all put too much pressure on her. So we just kept in touch. Now she is seeing someone else, but she texts me a lot now and takes a lot of interest in my "love life" asking what dates I've been on etc. Why do you think she is taking such an interest?
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reader, Ayan Ganguly  +, writes (24 August 2013):
 You see you must not consider what the lady is doing, okay at this point what is essential for you is to know what you want, if you do feel for her make it a point to convey it to her as it is useless to keep your feelings to yourself and rather ponder on why see takes so much interest in your love life, if you don't feel for her ignore her texts,all the best!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2013): Cause she wants to see if you are still available. Probably the fact that you are acting so cool about the break up and about her dating someone else has piqued her interest in you again. Women tend to be drawn to that kind of aloofness. She was probably expecting you to be torn or upset. And she is trying to find out why you are not. She's thinking maybe its because you are dating someone. She doesn't know, that is why she is inquiring. She can't just come right out and say, "Why the heck are you not the least bit upset that I dumped you AND I'm dating someone else already? I thought you really liked me!"
But that is what she's thinking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2013): She's still got feelings for you- believe me if she didn't she 100% WOULDN'T care. It's a safe bet to say she will at one point or another look to start things up with you again... But do you wait around cos why should you? If you really like her, come out with it straight and ask her why she's so interested? You have a right to know because technically it's none of her business.
She's got feelings for you definitely. Either she really cares or she's messing you around, and use your head, you'll know if she's messing. Don't let her play you, don't forget she shouldn't be probing you like this considering she's already in a relationship... Be weary.
Take care! :) xx
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reader, Anongrl +, writes (24 August 2013):
Hmm, it seems to me that she's still sort of hanging on to you or something.
It's like she hasn't fully let your relationship go, but she made the choice to end it, so it's unfair of her to be asking about your relationships, when really, it's not any of her business!
It sounds to me, that she doesn't really want you moving on, even though she is.
That's not fair on you and if you do remain in contact with her, she may disrupt any reltionships you'll have.
It's not really fair to leave a person hanging like this, obviously you must still like her to be still in contact with her, but if she won't be with you, then it's very selfish of her to be taking such an interest in your love life, it just sounds to me that she would be jealous if you were to have a new relationship.
I think that the reason she is interested is because she's in a relationship and she probably enjoys having you to still talk to, on the side, even though she has "moved on".
Just be careful, you deserve to be happy and not kept hanging and confused like this!
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