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writes:Im sure this isnt uncommon but any advice would be appreciated as this is completely new to me.Due to a major recession work wise, my boyfriend is having to work 2 hours away in a city called stockport building a new hospital. For the past few weeks he has been home every weekend then going back mon-fri but since the work load has increased there he is now stationed there for 3 months and only returning every 3rd weekend. I took this hard as im used to seeing him every week and talking to him everyday but now because of work he can only txt me once or twice a day, sometimes not at all if he is working until the early hours. Im finding this really hard and im stuck about what to do.Leaving him is not an option, we are in love with each other and it isnt a good enough reason to end the relationship but if there are any women out there who are in a relatively same situation to me where they cant talk to their partner every day then please reply to me and let me know how you get through this difficult time. Please bare in mind this has only just started so its not a matter of not being used to it... im just trying to adjust thats all.Any help or advice from similiar situations is greatly appreciated
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reader, cd206 +, writes (11 November 2008):
 Hey, i'm in the same situation kind of only I'm the one who has had to move away from my lovely boyfriend to work. I get home whenever I can but given that he has to work weekends and I never get time off during the week it is very difficult. I guess the faith that the relationship is strong helps me get through it a lot. I know without a doubt that we're meant to be together and that this is only a temporary measure however much I hate it right now. We do our best to find ways to keep in touch even when it's difficult. I always text him when I get up in the morning and before I go to bed. This only takes a few seconds at a time of day when you usually have a couple of seconds to spare. I also write him letters. Sometimes they're long and other times they're less than six lines just telling him how much I love and miss him. We also swapped items of clothing so that when I'm feeling lonely I can smell him and vice versa. They're all small things but they've helped loads. Message me if you ever need to talk. I do understand. Honestly.
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (11 November 2008):
Dude, my husband is in Iraq for 6 months.
Try talking to him for 30 minutes a week over a crap satelite and then hearing him say "hang on, I just have to get under the table, we are getting mortared."
I know if you are not used to it then it can be an absolute nightmare though so I do sympathise.
Here are the army wifes top tips for surviving long distance:
1. DO NOT sit by your phone hoping it will ring - you'll be insane after 3 hours.
2. GET OUT! Call up old friends, get your christmas shopping done, go out to the cinema and watch obscure Russian films, join a club or group.
3. USE THE TIME. You have 3 months - what can you do in that time? Write a book, study and get a new qualification (learn direct is a good start), make and sell things at Xmas Faires, paint a water colour, re-decorate the flat, do some kind of project in the evenings and weekends as this is the worst time.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, agonyunclechris +, writes (11 November 2008):
 hey.
try to remember the reason he is there, he is doing it to provide for you. just stay strong, go out with friends ect, enjoy life and try not to think about how it used to be when he was here, just how it is now and what u must do to make it better. The hospital will be finished and he will be back with you, just try and persuade him not to do the same thing again on you. he will most probably be feeling the strain aswell.
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