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writes:I'm worried about sexI've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. I really do have strong feelings for him. We have talked about sex and he told me that he is happy to wait and suggested me going on the pill for extra protection. I am really worried about something going wrong, e.g. the condom splitting. I think it's because I am still a virgin and haven't had much experience. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): Seeing as this would be the first time you are bound to worry that something will go wrong. Remember firstly you have only been in a relationship with your boyfriend for 3 months and you are only either 16 or 17 so don't rush into things. Your boyfriend has said to you that he's happy to wait before having sex with you which is a good sign and means that he's not going to pressurise you into having sex before you want it. I know that you have strong feelings for your boyfriend but firstly you have got to consider a couple questions before having sex: are you 100 percent sure that you are ready to have sex and lose your virginity? Do you trust and love the person you are planning to have sex for the first time with? If the answer is yes to both questions plus you feel that you know your boyfriend well enough then maybe it would seem right to lose your virginity to him. Remember, never get forced into losing your virginity. Also the pill will give you extra protection on top of using a condom so you could use both before having sex to make sure that you don't fall pregnant. Also as long as condoms are not out of date they will protect you against pregnancy almost 100 percent. So remember to use one to stop you from catching any diseases or getting pregnant.
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reader, cd206 + ♥, writes (6 March 2007):
 Hey, it's totally natural to be a little bit anxious about first time sex but if you feel actively scared perhaps you're not quite ready for it yet. You're still so young that I wouldn't rush yourself. Your boyfriend's suggestion about you going on the pill is very sensible since there is only a 1 in a 100 chance of getting pregnant on the pill and this is similar with condoms when they're used correctly. However, in your position I used condoms and the pill to start with so that I only had a 1 in 10000 chance of getting pregnant (slightly more but the maths is too hard!) If you do decide to have sex build up to it slowly. You'll feel much better about things then. I'm so glad your boyfriend isn't pressuring you and I wish you all the luck in the world!
CD
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