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26-29,
bleu012
writes:I have a problem, I am engaged and for one reason or another I have not met ANY of my boyfriends family. Some of the reasons are valid (his mother was ill, the family flew out of state for the birth of his nephew)but I cant help being upset, we are scheduled to get married in July and it is February! I have tried talking to my boyfriend about how important this is to me and how important it should be for him but I am still in the dark. He started his own company which has taken a great deal of his time, but how hard is it to set up a dinner, or a lunch or anything for that matter? I am actually considering not getting married over this. The uncertanty, is it because he knows that they wont like me, is it because I wont like them, is he serious about getting married at all, what is it?
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reader, AskEve  + ♥, writes (5 February 2007):
 I take it he's met your family? I must admit, it is a little strange. You'd think they'd be curious to see who their son wanted to marry and want to meet you, even if it was just to give you the "once over."
However, on saying that... it's HIM you're marrying and NOT his family! If he loves you then at the end of the day that's all that matters. Let him know you feel a little awkward that the wedding is only a few months away and you still haven't met any of them and ask him if he could arrange it, even if it's only for a coffee. Let him know you really feel quite strongly about this.
Do they live in another state? Maybe that's why it's been so difficult? If they don't then tell him it would certainly make you feel more comfortable to meet them before the wedding. Ask him "is it ME you're embarrassed about?" If he sees it means so much to you (and I can't say I blame you) then he should arrange a meeting with them.
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reader, Miss Optimistic +, writes (4 February 2007):
I would sit him down and explain how this is affecting you. They could be geuine reasons, but it also depends on how long you've been together. A short amount of time, would explain this more.
Also remember that it's you and him in the marriage, no family members, but definately worth trying to talk to him seriously, as your new husband, he should care and respect your feelings.
Take care
xx
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