New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login244964 questions, 1084314 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

Was this a genuine error or a ploy to get back in touch?

Tagged as: Breaking up, Friends, Troubled relationships, Trust issues<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (3 June 2014) 6 Answers - (Newest, 5 June 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Ok I fell out with my close male friend 8 months ago

We were gonna get together but because he was going through a bad split my emotional clingy mess pushed him away

Now 8 months later he's emailed me saying he 'accidentally' used my address for his eBay order

He ordered me one thing two years ago and has used it regularly since

My friends think its a ploy like an olive branch

Any advice please

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (5 June 2014):

So_Very_Confused agony auntIt is probably innocent and whatever you do keep it cool and say "sure I'll make sure the item gets to you" and deliver it to him with a smile. Expect nothing... you won't be disappointed that way.

<-- Rate this answer

A reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2014):

If he used your address accidently then you will receive the goods or there was no point him letting you know he made a mistake with delivery address.

Return the goods to him and ask him out for a drink, you do not want him as just a friend, if you did, it wouldn't be such a huge deal. Be honest.

Go for it but be ready for a knock back too

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, sugarplum786 South Africa +, writes (4 June 2014):

sugarplum786 agony auntLooks like an innocent mistake. If you want more then milk this error for what's it worth. Go after what you want.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, oldbag United Kingdom +, writes (4 June 2014):

oldbag agony auntI agree with Aunt Honesty. Let him lead.

I have several addresses on Ebay as I have ordered presents here n there so its an easy mistake to tick the wrong box or forget to change it.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 June 2014):

Honeypie agony auntI would just tell him to contact the seller and change the address. I would NOT read more into it.

Now IF he uses eBay a lot I can see it's weird, if he hasn't really used it since last time he used your address it can just be a mistake.

Like AH says, just sit back and let him do the chasing - IF there is going to BE any chasing.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (3 June 2014):

aunt honesty agony auntIt does sound suspicious that he accidentally used your address. However it could have been an innocent mistake. I think the best thing to do here is just to keep things cool and see how it plays out. If he wants to get back in contact with you then he will. You pushed him away before by being to clingy so this time I suggest letting him do the chasing and you will soon know if he wants to rekindle the friendship or not.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "Was this a genuine error or a ploy to get back in touch?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0312506000000212!