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writes:Hi,Thanks for reading my post. English is not my native language I need advice. I am trying to the find right person. I started online dating . I met few guys but things did not work out. Its almost a month a guy tried to reached me. He mentioned is his profile that he is looking for serious relationship. He gave me his no and I called him. He seems very nice guy. Just in one week he deleted his account on dating site. He told me He don't think online dating is a good idea. Any way , he wanted to meet me but I did not meet him . Then He disappeared for two weeks then he text me . He asked me if I could mail him my more pictures. I was busy with work and did not send him. Then he texted me KEEP YOUR PICS PG. THERE WAS ALSO A PIG CARTOON. I was very mad and texted him back I am not interested. That's very bad manner of him. Then he called me but I did not pick up the phone and he texted me he was just kidding . He apologized .Well , the thing is that do you think is that was just a simple joke? Do I have to wish him charismas.?so I don't know it was just a joke or he has bad manner. to Call some one pig....Please I need advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2015): LOL.. I'm going to chime in here.. This 'pig' name really depends on what ethnicity you are. For example, in Chinese, calling each other 'pig' is actually a term of endearment. But we use double words, so I would call my honey my 'pig pig'..
My point is, there may be exceptions to every thing. Don't take it too seriously. If you feel that he is not the right one, just move on to someone else. Don't let someone you barely know upset you. It's the Holidays, cheer up!! ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your replies. I was going to do big mistake to contact him again. Yes , you are right the seems jerk.
Thanks again for replies.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (18 December 2015):
 It was no joke and this is far from a simple case of bad manners. It's a red flag.
He should have been blocked/deleted right after that email and you should have had no contact with him since.
Asking for pictures after a two week disappearance was fishy enough, but to become obnoxious and menacing when he didn't get them tells me he is wildly unstable.
Have nothing more to do with him and be thankful he showed you what he really is now rather than later.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 December 2015):
 BLOCK his number and FORGET about him!
YOU owe him nothing.
Jokes are only funny when BOTH people involved understand and laugh at it.
What an idiot!!
He only apologized to keep you around, either to make fun of or to use as entertainment. Either way, let him go. His actions (his behavior) and his words ( telling you that he is serious) doesn't match.
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reader, jls022  +, writes (18 December 2015):
I think he's a rude idiot and you're well rid of him. I also wouldn't take it personally, there's an increasing number of reports of men becoming mean and hostile when women don't reply to them on dating sites. If you type 'bye felipe' into google you'll see them - it's like these guys think they are owed a response and when they don't get it they lash out and try to hurt the woman. So just write this guy off as an entitled idiot and don't give him another thought.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 December 2015):
 No no. Just block him and move on.
This is unacceptable. If it was just a joke, then is a bad taste joke ; you can find someone with a better sense of humour. And even if there was no intent to offend or to put down (... hard to believe .... ) he is a jerk who he has no sense of boundaries .
An occasional "colorful " name is acceptable in some contexts and not in others . Some families or groups of old friends joke a bit heavily among themselves ,- because anyway the mutual bond of affection and respect is longstanding and conclaimed.
But ... you are still a total stranger to him and he calls you a pig ?!! Who the heck does he think he is, to take this liberty ?...
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reader, chipmunk37 +, writes (18 December 2015):
 Calling some one a pig is very offensive...more to some people than others...but offensive non the less. It was not meant as a joke, and if by some chance it was intended as such you do not need someone with that kind of humour. You don't have to send him a merry Christmas text. I would recommend deleting his number and email and ending communication with him.
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