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writes:I have known a girl for a long time now (lets say b),people thought we were dating but we were not.I asked her friend( b's friend)if b was happy about what people said and she said no.Two months later,I asked b personally how she feels about what people says about us; and she was angry I asked her friend first. We dont talk any more even as friends. Was I wrong to ask her friend first and what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, mrg123  +, writes (3 August 2011):
 Well, I guess she feels like you were talking about her behind her back, and she already seems to have been irritated by other people doing that so I can see her point. However, I feel that for you, the real question you were asking was 'does she like me' and that's why you approached the friend first because you were scared of asking her and being flatly rejected which you kind of were in the end, by proxy.
So, I dont think its a question of wrong and right. You didn't exactly commit a huge sin but you should perhaps understand your feelings and, indeed, she should show more understanding towards yours. If she has stopped speaking to you over this then shes a bit petty to be honest and I would say not really worth having as a friend or partner. I am afraid your going to have to chalk this one up to experience, maybe remember next time that the direct approach is better (though for understandable reasons, harder for you) and move on with your life and find friends who are not going to be as petty. Good luck :)
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