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writes: ok. So I've posted before about how my ex boyfriend broke up w/ me because "I was just a rebound kinda thing" and he "needs time to think" and such. It's been over a month now since that has happened and he's come over here 3 times in that month and everytime he does come over, we're cuddling and kissing and such. Well. We're still not together. But he's been hanging out w/ his ex girlfriend that he dated off and on for 6 1/2 years b4 me. And he promised me he wouldn't get back together w/ her. So yeah... I'm still so damn confused. 'Cuz like I said, he said he needed time to think and that I was just rebound for those 5 months we were together. But really, do rebounds last that long and get introduced to practically the whole family and if I were a rebound, why would he have told me he loved me and talked to me so much about our future and such and how he wanted to marry me? I'm still so confused and still want him back as much as I did b4. I'm just hoping that he comes around within time and comes back to me. I really feel like I'm nothing w/out him. Someone please help!!! thx in advance for any help. I really appreciate it.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Yep. He has his cake and is enjoying it right now. He has you on the back-burner until he finds out what his ex really wants to do. I mean yeah he tells you that he won't get back with her but he can if he so desires and whats the worst you can do but call him a liar. Don't be reduced to someone's back-up plan. Good Luck.
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reader, jack23 +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Someone people do let rebounds last alot longer than they should, as they should happen in the first place. But he is getting everything he wants, the pleasure of being with you without the commitment, which means he can do what ever he wants and theres nothing you can do/say about it.You need to put your foot down, and not kiss or anything when he comes round, that should only happen if he is prepared to be with you. I dont doubt that he has feelings for you, hes just got too comfortable with the current situation. Tell him you are either together or you are not. You cant let things continue like this, I can only see it leading to a painful experience for you.This situation isnt fair on you, you need to know the situation so that you can make good decissions. If he cant give you an answer then you should try to get on with your life, you will always find someone that can appriciate you like you should be.Good luck :)
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