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anonymous
writes:I was a virgin before I met my boyfriend.He found me too wet the other day when we had sex, like he just slipped in so easy I could feel it..so he claims i slept around or I masturbate but I do none of those things. He is the only guy I have ever had sex with. I was a virgin before we met...was anything wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (4 April 2016):
Here is the question to ask him... How do you know what virgins feel like??
How many virgins have you had sex with??
Are you an expert on virgins??
Sorry I was too excited to have sex with you and all wet. Remember how that feels, because that will be your last time.
If he was an expert, he would know a wet woman is a fun woman. Dumbass !!!
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (2 April 2016):
As noted here, there is not a connection between being wet and being a virgin. Not much news there, but as I read your post two things come to mind: 1) Is there a double-standard here...was he a virgin prior to having sex with you? 2) If even if you weren't one, there is nothing wrong with not being a virgin.
I realize there may be some cultural issues here that place value on the female being a virgin. This is the view that people here in the USA espouse and I do think that it is one that reflects equality between the sexes and reflects the realities of life. In the same vein, I understand your following your cultural beliefs.
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (2 April 2016):
 Hi,
your bf sounds very selfish, domineering, insecure, interrogating and narrow minded, i'm sorry to say.
You were turned on by him, so as a result, your body reacted positively and that can not be a bad thing.
The bad thing is that, your bf doesn't trust you, so because of his own insecurities and shortcomings, he attacks/acuses you verbally, yet what absolute proof does he have?
How dare he!
He must read more info regarding foreplay, as quite clearly, he has no clue, but to judge his gf, simply because she's wet and for him!
If you were dry and not turned on, what would he then say?!
He has insulted you and put you down and you should think long and hard about dating such a guy.
If he is already showing such signs of disrespect and ditrust toward you, what will be next, i dread to think.
I would advise you to inform you bf, that if he continues to treat you this way, then the two of you have nothing.
Trust is one of the biggest binders within any union and if he already distrusts you, chances are that it's only going to get worse with time.
Nobody can sustain a healthy relationship, without the all important "trust".
I personally think that he really doesn't deserve you.
Good luck!
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reader, Ivyblue +, writes (2 April 2016):
 No there is definitely nothing wrong with you. Instead of being happy that he made you so sexually excited for him, he insults you. I think he's the masturbator, because he is acting like a wanker.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 April 2016):
 You where wet because your body was ready for sex, maybe you where not as nervous as some other women so it made it easier for him to enter you. That is all perfectly normal. He obviously does not trust you when he talks to you with such disrespect. I am afraid you might have lost your virginity to someone who was not worthy off it. Do not let him talk to you or treat you like this, you deserve better than some guy who is going to judge you just because he is insecure.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (1 April 2016):
There is nothing wrong with you! He slipped in easily because you were turned on.
There is something wrong with him. He is being jealous, paranoid and unreasonable. He is shaming you for something that doesn't exist. Please do not tolerate this behavior. Even if you were not a virgin (and I believe you), so what?
Sorry, you are dating a Jerk.
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