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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I want to dump my boyfriend who is also my boss! and i,m worried i will lose my job. What should i do? He is a married man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): sweetie u really r in the worst position! 1st, y did u even d8 if hes married? 2nd tell him that u want 2 b friends but thats it. 3, tell him u dont want him to b unfaithful 2 his wife and he deserves better .(he mite not deserve u at all but u hav ur job on the line!) if u find it all 2 scary then u mite need 2 start by not returning calls, no sex and bla bla bla. realy hope i helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): You have a good case here. Just finish with him and see what happens. Does his wife know about you? Does he want her to know? If he doesnt want to cause a tidal wave then he wont do a thing, but if he isnt bothered, then go to someone higher up if that is possible. If you do have trouble then mail me, cos i have the phone number of ACAS and they will definately take the matter further.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): Why don't you say to him if he fires you, you will tell his wife!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (2 June 2008):
 He cant sack you for not wanting a relationship with him.
However he could make it difficult for you to work there, so my advice unless you are a strong lady, is to find a new job. I can garantee you though, he will be a lot more scared than you. After all its him that has everything to loose. So if you really dont want to leave your job, just tell him its over! but you hope you could still be polite to each other. See how it goes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): Wouldn't that be illegal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): I can't say that would be easy.
"Eyeswideopen" has a point, but I think your job is more important to that than you.
Maybe you should just break it to him gentally. Just tell him that you Aren't sure that a relationship is for you at them moment... even though you think he's a great guy!
Something like that.
If you put the blame on yourself and your own reasons then he is less likely to be angry.
He may still be scared that you would tell someone about the affair, so reassure him that you wouldn't.
Good Luck.
Emivia. X
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 I'd quit my job AND dump the cheating germ. If you would find it more comfortable then I would find a new job first, then quit the current job AND dump the cheating germ.
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