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female
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16-17,
anonymous
writes:I now feel ready for full sex-my boyfriend is too.We've talked about contraception and condoms.Some of my friends saythere's no difference in the pleasurable sensations for a woman whether a man wears one or not.Others say the feeling is much better without and the feel of the semen is a real turn on.Any views?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): It is more pleasurable without. For some reason he feels smaller inside me with a condom on. Personally I hate them! Skin on skin is best if you are in a situation where std's aren't an issue.
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reader, MG3150 +, writes (17 July 2008):
 If you are lucky then you can have sex without a condom, just because you don't use one doesn't mean you WILL get pregnant or WILL catch a disease, the risk is high but it's the chance you take
me and my girlfriend prefer not to use them because it is more pleasurable for us but if we don't want to take our chances then we use them
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reader, oldfool  + ♥, writes (13 July 2008):
 The answer is simple. It's much better without a condom. For both the guy and the girl.
But as the aunts have pointed out, it's not much fun having sex without a condom if there's all hell to pay for it later. If you fall pregnant or get a disease, your enthusiasm for that fantastic flesh-to-flesh sensation will rapidly turn to revulsion.
Play it safe: keep the ecstasy of condomless sex for someone that you're sure of, someone who is both long-term and important to you.
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female
reader, Tigger3165  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 well... you're at the age range 16-17... and i don't know how serious your relationship is... but i would DEFINATELY use a condom in your shoes... i have had 3 sexual partners, and a condom was used with each of them... only recently did i stop using one, and that's because we are engaged, and know eachother are clean (we were checked together), and we both want a baby (though its difficult for me to get pregnant)...
that said, it feels AMAZING with out a condom... not the feeling of the semen though, that actually kind of grosses me out sometimes... but i only found that out with the person i'm certain i'm going to spend my life with...
use a condom!!!
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reader, Smiles  + ♥, writes (13 July 2008):
 Sex without a condom might feel better; but the risk is higher; at this stage do not have unprotected sex; there is no cure for AIDS.
Best wishes
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (12 July 2008):
 I would definitely use a condom, there are so many diseases out there now that it's just not worth the risk. Most people ironically get AIDS and other STD's thinking they are in a monogomous relationship, that's the latest statistics. I'm not trying to be a buzz kill on your relationship but younger guys tend to be more impulse driven and may not assess risk the same way a more mature, experienced male would. Also when you are young, you tend to think you are more invincible and gamble more on things you shouldn't like maybe forgetting to take the pill one day or just thinking one time won't get you pregnant.
Plus, he's young and probably more apt to ejaculate faster so using a condom will probably be more pleasurable for you instead of the whole experience being over in 2 minutes.
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reader, LazyGuy  + ♥, writes (12 July 2008):
 Are you absolutely 100% certain that he is clean AND will continue to remain clean. If you are 1% wrong you could become sterile or even DIE.
Are you absolutely 100% certain that you are safe from pregnancy, if you are 1% wrong you could end up as another teen mother or undergo an abortion.
Yes, sex without a condom feels better, but sex WITH a condom still feels a whole lot better then no sex at all.
Simply put, considering the risk just take the small hit in pleasure over the very real risk of an STD or a pregnancy or even BOTH. The orgasm still feels the same just takes a bit longer perhaps, at your age, that is usually not a bad thing if he is a bit slower.
If he complains, just tell him that it is either screwing in a rubber or he can go screw himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): I dont like having sex with a condom, basically if i wanted to have sex with some rubber gloves- i would!!
But saying that i didnt stop using condoms with my boyfriend until we both got checked out and i am on the pill.
Even if he says he is a virgin, agree to get checked out BOTH of you and make sure you are using contraceptive such as the pill
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reader, Secret Teller +, writes (12 July 2008):
 use a condom! safer sex is the best way to go, do you want a baby or a STD at your age?
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reader, *Jess* +, writes (12 July 2008):
 I personally would say that sex feels more pleasurable and more intimate when there aren't condoms involved. Saying that, I would never consider having sex without a condom if I wasn't on the pill (which I am) and if I wasn't sure that my boyfriend didn't have diseases (which I am). If you go to your doctor, they can prescribe you the contraceptive pill for free and it has loads of other advantages such as controlled periods, being able to have sex whenever you wanted without worrying about condoms etc etc. However, sex without a condom can be 'messy' afterwards. But personally I think its worth it :P xx
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reader, saltwater + ♥, writes (12 July 2008):
 You should always practice safe sex -- especially in your teenage years.
Going on the Pill and him wearing a condom will ensure that you are virtually safe from unwanted diseases, pregnancy, infections etc.
There are also many types of condoms that have the woman in mind as well; such as ribbed ones; flavoured ones (for oral use) and so on...you yourself may find sex more pleasurable if he wears a condom!
And condoms don't have to cost anything; your local sex clinic always has them for free!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): well the pleasure might be better without a condom but i would think the risk is a big one if you don't use one.
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (12 July 2008):
 I obviously can't remark on what it feels like for a woman, but I can definitely say there's a huge difference for a man. On the plus side, a condom might enable him to keep going a lot longer than without one, thus hopefully satisfying you, due to a loss of sensation.
If you're happy with each other's sexual history and you're both clear of any nasty surprises, it might be better for you to go on the pill, which will be far less expensive if like most youngsters you go at it several times a day, several times a week!
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