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Verbally abused and hurt and confused and now he won't take my phone calls

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Question - (25 October 2015) 5 Answers - (Newest, 26 October 2015)
A female United States age 51-59, *idn't no writes:

hurt and confused,I been verbally abuse by my man sam,accused of everthing,Sam start argument and move out for two weeks,i secretly voice record him,what I heard sound like he was snorting meth or coke, when I ask him,he said he sick of this stuff, and pack up and left now he want answer my call, I haven't heard from him in 10 days,can anybody tell me what's going on

Me and s got back together after yrs of being apart,we been living together about 8mo now,the last two mo have been he'll for me ,s wants me to call him if I leave the house ,s tell me what kind of clothes he wants me to wear,s,have accused me of stealing his tool,cheating ,drink alcohol and using drugs,I assure hi I wasn't.I secretly recorded him on my phone,I heard what sounded like he was snorting meth or coke, i ask him and now he has move out want answer my calls

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2015):

You should be in 'reality' so pleased and relieved that you have been spared a life of hell. Begin again and change your life and look for a brighter future, look for love in yourself and learn that you can have a better life. Choose what type of person you are and what type of person you want to share your life with.

Honestly you are very lucky, imagine how it would feel to wake up in the morning to a day that you decide how it's going to be. You get to decide how to make yourself happy and feel good. You get to do what you like, no worrying about explaining your life away. Imagine the joy of no emotional pain. Imagine if you can make this a reality, you can now that he has gone. Live it, make the most of it, because life is short and you are responsible, did you hear me? you are responsible for your life and how you want to live it. If you need support for co-dependency, then seek it quickly. If you love him, then do not support his lifestyle you can not and will not save him, but you can save yourself. Life is too short, so much more out there for you.

Educate yourself on life's adventures and what is possible, educate yourself on self healing. It always upsets me when i see lifes wasted, this goes for your x partner aswell.

No good blaming past trauma and childhood issues, things like this should be enough to make us grab life and all it's wonderful offerings. Go sky diving, learn to sail, learn to dance, ride a motorbike across the mountains,do something that makes you feel alive, a different kind of edge.

When we have experienced our own hell's, life becomes so beautiful when we are free, my hunger for life grew into a passion that made me feel like i could do anything, and i did and still do. Go get your real life, never look back :)

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A female reader, WhenCowsAttack United States +, writes (26 October 2015):

Why on earth are you trying to contact this abusive jerk? Stop it!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (26 October 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI agree with Auntie BimBim

First of all if he is into Meth and Coke he is certainly not a prize of a man.

Second of all CHANGE your locks, stop calling him & block his number, pack up his stuff. IF you know any of his friends you can ask THEM to pick up his stuff and store it.

As for the recording? Mmmm I'm a skeptic. I don't think you can "hear" clearly enough that someone is doing drugs. For you to accuse him, I have to hope you have had other clues? What MADE you record him?

Either way, I'd thank my lucky stars that he is gone gone gone!

From what you write he sounded like an abusive control freak.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2015):

Forget him and leave him alone.

You have been fabricating evidence against him.

How can it sound like he was taking crack or coke?

You must take a lot of it to be able to know over the phone what he's doing!

You wanted to put him in jail and now he's gone.

You are not good for each other.

You can find another man.

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (26 October 2015):

Aunty BimBim agony auntWhat's going on is that he has realised you are on to him and not prepared to take his abusive crap any more.

You have had a very lucky escape, now change your locks and block his numbers.

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