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Unsure about masturbation.

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Question - (8 July 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 8 July 2010)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I'm a fourteen year old girl, and well...a lot of my friends "masterbate". I suppose at first I was a bit shocked when they told me that. I had heard the term before, but had never taken part in trying to. I am very curious about my body now, but is that a bad thing? I feel rather dirty thinking that I want to touch myself 'down there'. I tried to give myself pleasure, but every time I try to stick my finger in my vagina, it hurts and I feel an immense amount of pressure. Any tips? I don't know what to do. Help!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010):

Oh lord. Please please please DO NOT use the handle of something. You either, the girl who posted that. It's terribly dangerous. Just play around on the outside. It's good, trust me. But please do NOT stick anything up there that is not meant for it. If you would rather, go buy a toy for that, but a proper one that is safe. You could damage yourself permanently and I would hate to hear that. Best.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thanks everyone, it's all very helpful to me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010):

masturbation is something both men/women do for pleasure I'm 11 and I masturbate and it shouldn't be about your finger you can do whatever you want down there try using a handle of something like a handle of a hairbrush or the handle of a jumprope ect. You should do whatever you feel best about... Hope I helped

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A male reader, The B man United States +, writes (8 July 2010):

The B man agony auntWell, if you dont feel comfortable masterbating then dont do it. Try not to let peer pressure(if there is any) make you do what you dont want to do. Nobody needs to know about this in an event that someone asks you if you masterbate so you can tell them its none of there business, your personal life. Nothing bad should happen if you dont masterbate.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010):

if you want to mastubate than you should start by rubbing you breasts and the area around your vagina also aparently watching porn helps to . hope this helps .

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (8 July 2010):

person12345 agony auntFirst you have to get over that guilt about masturbating for it to feel good. Find a place where you can be totally alone, like the bathtub. Somewhere no one will disturb you. Masturbation is very beneficial and healthy. It is a better sleep aid than any drug can be, it is an amazing relaxer, and just feels great. Also, you'll need to get yourself in the mood, by say reading erotica or watching some porn. Then you need to realize masturbation isn't about sticking a finger in your vagina. You don't actually have many nerve endings there. Your main pleasure organ is your clitoris, located on the outside. A small bump, you may not be able to see it. The you need to rub that until it feels good. The bath is good since it can prevent chafing. If you look around on google for some tips it can help. You shouldn't feel dirty touching yourself. It's your own body and you can do whatever you want to it and touch it however and wherever you want. It is the only thing that is truly yours, and making it feel good should be your number one priority. Masturbation is no different from scratching a bug bite, except that it feels great. Your genitals are your own, no one can tell you not to touch them. I know that as women we rarely actually see them and we pretty much always touch them with something else (like a washcloth or toilet paper) but they're just another body part, like your nose. I recommend taking a mirror and just exploring the area, touching and poking things to get used to it. It is yours after all! You wouldn't buy a sports car and just leave it in the garage now would you? You should not feel guilty masturbating. Ever. Well, don't do it in public.

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