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Unplaned pregnancy and I'm having second thoughts about the father

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Question - (15 March 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 15 March 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

So suppose I am so confused I need to talk about it..i have a son from a previous relationship which didn't work out as he was abusive and cheating. He doesn't see he's son he's own choice..i am now in a relationship of 7 months although we were friends for a year before that. Now there is a unplanned pregnancy I'm about 9 weeks pregnant he's so happy and I am just confused and worried.. He's a lovely man and loves my son also but I have started to not want to be around him everything he does annoys me and I'm thinking do I love him I'm not even wanting to start living with him as I live with just my son.. I am so worried how my son will feel with new baby as he doesn't see he's dad, whether he will feel left out, will I love new baby as much as my son,

Its always been just me and my son I am worried of the change. What if me and the father don't work out. I do suffer with anxiety so I am feeling very drained with my thoughts.. I really wasn't ready for another child yet I know o should have been more careful..abortion has crossed my mind but don't know how o would cope.. anyone else felt this way with a unplanned pregnancy or been In a simalar situation.. Am I being silly thinking like this... Thanks guys

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2015):

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Thanks for your input I think I am mostly worrying about my son and if we don't end up staying together will it be awkward as of access and stuff with new baby..i know I'm prob thinking way ahead.. No I have not had any contact or known my sons dads whereabouts for a year and half.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (15 March 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI don't think your son will have any issues with a new sibling, UNLESS YOU make that a big deal.

I get why you are anxious and scared, you had a child with one man and he turned out to be a total dud and now... you are with someone new AND pregnant.

We (hubby and I) planned for 1 (ONE) kid. We have 3. So 2 were unplanned. I have no regrets though.

What you need to ask yourself is CAN YOU HANDLE another child as a single mother? Financially and emotionally? If the answer is I think so or yes, then you CAN do this,

If the answer is no, then you really need to sit your BF down and talk this out. Maybe adoption would be a better option for you.

You have 3 options.

1. keep the baby, work it out

2. abortion

3. adoption

You are NOT being silly at all, having a child is a BIG responsibility. TALK to your partner.

BTW is your son's dad AT LEAST paying child support?

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