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writes:So my boyfriend and I had been together for a year before suggesting that we take a break from the frustration of not seeing each other and fighting about it all the time. I was upset but found out that he just wanted me to be happy with someone.I could see and he was moving soon and his dad had been pushing him to see other people since we didn't see each other. Anyway, over the course of two months he told me he'd never find another and that there was no one else. This he promised. We later tried to work things out and it worked for a while. Until his sister told me that he had been cuddling via text with a girl I just met, he knew her for a couple years and she said they always had a flirty relationship (he's a Romeo of some sort), and this fired me up. In the past we've had issues with him asking me for sexy pics and his very friendly nature with girls. I also found out that before we got together a girl sent him pics and a video of herself doing things. I feel hurt that he didn't tell me this but he said it was before me and that he only talked to the girl because he wanted to feel loved and wanted again and he thought that we'd never get back together. I know we were on a break but he could have said something...mind you, we have a passionate burning love for one another. He's my BEST friend and we have always known everything about one another. My friends say I should move on and try again when he grows up but I don't know?.Another friend said we should stay friends and then we'll remember why and how much we love each other. I also can't accept his flirty horny past... I'm afraid that it may get worse in the future and ive realized I'm the jealous type. Do I stay or go...? Help...we're supposed to talk tmrw before he takes a trip to FL...can trust be restored or is everything gone for good? I feel bad for the girl but she is kinda a bitch lol please help and use honesty...thanks
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 October 2012):
 You go. this is why:
1. you are young and what we want when we are young is not what we want/need when we are older.
2. you don't trust him
3. a break from a relationship is never just "a break" it's the start of a full blown break up
4. you are long distance..hard enough to do when you are an adult with money and close enough to visit regularly... impossible when you are a poor teen with a great distance (anything over an hour for a teen is a great distance)
also if you are 13 and have been with him a year you were 12 when you started... way too young to be dating and 15 is too young to be serious...
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (16 October 2012):
 You broke up because there were issues, I would leave things alone. I had this pattern with a guy I was seeing for awhile. Fight, break-up, get back together, fight, break-up...you know the rest of the story. If he is a "Romeo" of sorts, then you should definitely keep your distance. Why would you want to stay?
From your post it sounds as if he is flirting with other girls...doesn't that tell you something? Also, it does not serve you well to call other girls bitches. Does every girl your ex sees automatically mean she's a bitch? Maybe it is him you should be calling names. After all, he "just wants you to be happy with someone"? That is code for "I don't want to see you anymore".
We know it is hurtful, but you need to move forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2012): It all reads a bit confusing to me.
The parts I did make sense of were the facts that you both initially split up because you were constantly arguing about not being able to see each other enough, and that he was moving away somewhere else anyway (I assume even further away from you?)
So, the problem of distance still remains, and oh, now you've leaned you're the jealous type too.
I'd say no, you shouldn't try to make things work, at least not until you're both older and can make your own decisions to move closer to one another.
A LDR for someone with trust or jealousy issues is not a good idea.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 October 2012):
 I'd like somebody would explain me how do you cuddle by text ?? Cybersex, well, I can imagine. But cuddling, what do you write : " I am hugging you " " I am hugging you too "?...
Anyway : GO. You could not meet each other before, for some reason, - and that created problems, now you'll meet even less, or never, ... and you want to get involved in a LDR ? For how long, forever ? LDR can only work between adults that have the money , time and intention to visit each other as much as possible... and a plan to make it NOT LDR in a reasonable amount of time.
For you it would be an exercise in frustration and a waste of time.
Also because you are the jealous type and you got yourself a young horny Romeo. The " accidents 2 with pics and stuff will keep happening and upsetting you. I am not even saying once a cybercheater, always a cybercheater, - he may even be in good faith when he says he is passionately in love with you, but at his age his hormones will be all over the place and so far he has shown neither the ability NOR the will to keep this tendency in check out of respect for you.
Definitely move on, and get yourself another bf who is less romeo and more geographically approachable. Don't worry about the future and waiting for this boy to grow up- what will be will be, never say never , and if it's in the cards , one day you may be reconnected . But, in the meantime, please live your life and , if you have to date, keep it real.
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