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writes:I've known this man for two weeks and been on two dates with him. We haven't had sex or anything. But wow, already we hold hands, we kiss each other on the cheek and forehead or very briefly on the neck. On our second date, we got back from dancing, went to his place and just fell asleep cuddled next to each other. Is this normal? I have never felt so comfortable so quickly. No sex involved, no pressure for it either. I'm in bliss so I don't even know why I'm asking if this is normal behavior. Well, I guess it's because I've been in two previous long-term relationships and it's taken months to develop that comfort. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (21 July 2015):
 I will agree with both aunties here. IT can be normal, it CAN be great, but SLOW down.
Second date you go home with him? Honestly, that is not smart. I don't know how well you know this guy and how long you have known him, but don't PUT yourself in situation you can't control. Such as... go home with a guy you have had 2 dates with.
My first BF and I just clicked. And I have not felt as comfortable with a partner since him (though I'm now VERY comfortable with my husband, it didn't come as "easy" as it did with my first BF).
Get to know him. Spend time with him (on dates, outings, public places). There really is no hurry for all the rest.
Holding hand and kisses are lovely, I wouldn't stop those - but just be mindful that you DO NOT really know him all that well. And he, doesn't know you. YET.
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (21 July 2015):
 I would take my time with this new relationship.
Two dates & you are both so close, does not mean that you are meant to be togther for life, or that you're both perfect for one another & i know you've not implied this whatsoever, but i'm just stating the obvious here.
I say what i say because, a truly healthy connection takes time & you must both build a strong foundation first & foremost.
Given that you both kiss, hold hands, etc; stipulates that you get on, you are comfortable with one another, but again, you're both in the very early stages of your relationship & you're both wearing your rose coloured glasses @ present & with time, things will change & that is inevitable & happens within every relationship, however good or bad.
Also, as you've been in 2 long term unions prior, means that you'd have had experience before.
You would now see, in hindsight, what was good, what was was bad, what went wrong, what could have been, what you both could have done better.
At the end of the day, nobody is to blame totally, as it takes 2 to tango & simply, if you were meant to be, with your exs, it would've been. This applies to all of us obviously.
I am of mature age, i have had more than 5 long term relationships with men, i am now married, so i've had enough experience in this area & anybody who has had a relationship, will know what i am talking about.
Beware of anything too perfect in the very beginning. It is better to take it easy, allow things to progress slowly, but surely.
Sometimes the relationships that appear, not so good, in the beginning, are actually the ones that turn out to be rock solid.
When things are rushed, especially romance, we tend to get our hopes up too soon, then if it doesn't continue in the same way, we feel let down, we beat ourselves up, wondering what went wrong, so do take it slow.
It's refreshing to hear that you've not rushed into sleeping together just yet & i think you're playing it smart, because if/when it does happen, it'll be a wonderful time for both of you, especially when love is in the mix.
Try not to read into this early part of your new relationship too deeply, as if it's going to last for you both, you'll find out in due time.
In the meantime, simply enjoy what you have together & just take one day @ a time. Don't stress, don't over-analyse, don't think too much, just enjoy the here & now & if you guys are meant to be, you'll be.
It's that simple.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 July 2015):
 It can be normal. But it doesn't mean it's love or anything healthy.
I would be very careful and not go back to his place or yours and no "falling asleep cuddling" it's a situation that you don't need to deal with.
You like him and he likes you, things happen too fast often in these cases. If you really like him, go very slow in letting a relationship unfold.
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