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*orever18
writes:Ok so few days ago i tried to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time and we just couldn't...at first i bled little, the next day same, then in the next 3 days i started to bleed more and it was hurting a lot.I noticed that my hymen was tearing more every day but it just doesn't tear enough so he can penetrate me.The 5th time we tried to do it, the head was in me but when he started to push harder it hurt me a lot.I don't know if the hymen hurts or something inside of my vagina and i'm really worried because i can't see any solution.We've tried hard but it seems there is something wrong with me.We used tons of lube plus very long foreplay, i tried to be relaxed but it doesn't work and i'm really afraid that there is something wrong.My hymen seems strong and thick but why i bleed every time he tries to go inside?5 days of trying and not result:(what should i do more?see a doctor?did anyone have the same problem as mine?please helpps. he's also a virgin
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reader, Forever18 +, writes (9 September 2009):
Forever18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni also noticed that even when i'm turned on, the vagina is still tight...and there is something strange about the hymen for example one day it broke little and the day after we didn't meet and i saw that the tear started to heal..is it normal?
i'm totally relaxed,he is gentle with me me, i trust him and i'm trying not to think about the pain...but in vain
i read the same thing on the net that if you're not relaxed etc the vagina walls close up(Vaginismus) and i'm seriously thinking that i might have this...i don't know..i just hope everything's ok and that i'm not that unlucky
thanks for the answers:)
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reader, The_Girl_Least_Likely_To  +, writes (8 September 2009):
Hey :-)
To be honest, first sexual experiences are just like that for a woman! The pain and blood is entirely normal, honestly, when he enters you it is really a case of you having to grit your teeth and experience the pain. It's not pleasant but if he loves you and is gentle, it can be a relief. I bled not a lot on my first time, a lot on my second and then a little for the next couple of times. It hurt like hell but now the pain is completely gone when I make love and it's wonderful :) With time and experience you will find sex much easier, you just both need to get used to each other's bodies and you do need to let him break your hymen; probably best to get rid of it all in one fell swoop! I wouldn't say you need to go to a doctors, just continue trying, making sure that you have a lot of foreplay and are properly lubricated.
Hope this helps :)
xx
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reader, joliefan4u  +, writes (8 September 2009):
You need to keep trying, not just 5 days but as long as it takes...keep on becuz the more pressure you put on the hymen, the more softer, and the more easier to puncture. He needs to apply pressure, and if it hurts stop and try again later. Just do not give up. Keep on trying.
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reader, shna  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 its ok its perfectly norma the first time you have sex properly it will hurt . . but it gets better dont worry .
i have heard before (i dont no if its true) but if a girls in uncomfortable with having sex or feels she isnt ready to go further he vaginal walls will close up making it tight and difficult to enter . . ?
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