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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Over the past month and a half, I have been meeting men from a dating site.I have been in regular contact with a few different men, and have dated each several times.There is one clear winner due to a combination of interests and chemistry, but I don't know how he feels.We have never had a discussion about our dating. And the one and only time we made out, I got repeated calls from one of the other men. So I have reason to believe he should suspect that I am dating more than one person.He responds to my texts quick enough. If I invite him to an event, if he isn't already doing something he will come. I will be meeting some of his friends this Monday. However, I generally have to text first, and be the first to make contact. I am having a hard time telling how much he is into me, and how much might be shy nice-guy engineer. Or if he is *gasp* also dating other people.I keep being told that we are in the age of serial monogamy, and that the dating of more than one person at a time is frowned on now a days vs. our parent's day, and their 'going steady'.My worry is that if I ask him if he wants to only date me that his nice guy paradigm might be offended that I was dating other people to begin with.So, I wonder if the best course is to cut the others who are still good... but not as close to perfect as my number one choice go, without asking Mr. Number One.Or should I talk to him, and see what he is thinking before I formally cut ties....
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): You could try being straight with him and saying you have been dating others but like him the best, and see what he says. It might open up the way to something deeper.
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