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writes: I'm 18 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, things were great when we were first together, but recently I've been trying really hard to work and save money and do something big with my life. He doesnt have the same feelings, he has OCD (obessive complusive disorder) and really doesnt want to work because anxiety, and my parents arent to approving of this. he got fired from a job my dad got him and know doesnt want to work, and i'm geting super stressed, i'm paying rent, phone, my car, gas and everything else. i love him, but i dont know if i will be able to leave him, i just need some re-assuring thoughts, and some helpful info, please help me. and thank you.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (23 October 2006):
 Is he on medication? If he is and he still is making life miserable for you then you may want to end things with him. You have given him 2years of your life so it's not like you haven't tried to help him. Life is too short to not live it the way YOU want and need. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know all about ocd and everything that is hand and hand with it, he recently got dianoagesed with Bipolar mainia and pure o's of ocd, he has complusive thoughts and mood swings like no other. i'm a very caring person and i dont want to leave him while he is at this point, but i havent been "in Love" with him for about 3 months, but i still love him and care for him and i have those moments where i could see myself with him for the rest of my life, but then i just cant stand him, for the 2 years, i havent dealt with any of my problems just his. i want to make it work but i would love to go a different way and try something new. but its hard to see me with out him. and i have no friends anymore cuz he didnt like any of my friends, and i picked him over them. so i dont want to be alone. but i'm very outgoing i could always make new friends, but its still just a situation i dont want to be in. thanks for the advice but i need so much more :) lol . much love.
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reader, Toria +, writes (19 October 2006):
 There are so many different forms of OCD some being worse than others and more life controlling.
Someone with OCD can suffer from not wanting to leave the house or going to certain places or even little worries on leaving the house stopping them from doing it like did I turn this and that off and having to keep on going back inside to check over and over, this then causing anxiety and upset.
He really needs to see a doctor and either be given something to control this or preferably refered to see someone he can talk to, to get to the bottom of the real problem as OCD comes from something deep within that we control by obsessive thoughts or needs to do something over again as a way of shutting out the real problem.
Good luck :o)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 October 2006):
He needs to get himself to the doctor and get on some meds for his OCD. They are very effective and he'll be able to function just fine and hold down a job if he truly wants to work. Maybe he is using his illness as an excuse to freeload? Only you can know if he is worth all the hassle and stress. I think that once he's on the meds he'll be a totally different person and things will get much better for you.
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