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writes:Ok I have a bit of a problemI,m currently dating a guy who i really really like and we've been dating for near a month now. I met him through my best friends friends. he's the friends brother. Two weeks ago he stood me up and I was heartbroken and he didnt text me for a few days and my best friend told me to forget about him. He then texted me a few days later as if nothing had happened so I texted him very immaturely back small talk such as " fine " " whatever " and then he apologized. I didnt accept it at first but he started to text me could we please meet up. I refused twice and then he asked me a third time and I agreed.I didnt tell my best friend yet as I did want to meet him but I was afraid i wouldnt go if i told her. Then after a fantastic date and after meeting his family I went home and texted her and then I rang her. She said she doesn't want to know about him and that he's gonna hurt me. I don't think he will hurt me but she knows him a little better than meMe and the fella met up again last night and I didnt tell my best friend and we're meeting again on thursday were he's meeting my family. I don't know what to do I really like this guy he makes me feel amazing and I get on really well with his family. Even his mother said I was the first girl he'd ever brought home. But I feel like I,m betraying my best friend if I stay with him What should I do. It's breaking my heart :(
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reader, StayStrong  +, writes (29 August 2011):
 The thing about best friends is they want to protect your heart and hate to see you hurt.
but at the end of the day it is your mistake to make, and if you are willing to risk getting hurt then your friend should support you as much as they can, and be there with a box of tissue and some ice cream if it goes pear shaped.
Follow your heart, and if your friend is a true friend they will still be there to support you no matter what :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): Your best friend is right in her assessment of him. She's just looking out for you so you don't betray yourself and act like a doormat with him. Just be honest and tell her you will make your own decisions, even if they are bad ones.
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