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writes:This week, I met a really gorgeous guy at a Radio Course. First moment we saw each other, we were definately examining the other's potential. Within just the first few hours, there was a connection, and we got along really well. We have lots in common, and immediatly clicked; and I'm never like that with people. He said he's single, and he's aware that I am too, and I was totally pumped to go again the next day. But I was really ill that night and wasn't well again until this morning, and the Radio course ends at 4 tomorrow. I'm debating whether to return as a volunteer just to see him, although I find the course tedious, and if I returned I'd be as a 'special case', as it were. It would probably be humilating and I'd be belittled and patronized by the others there. But I can't stop thinking about him, it's so frustrating. I don't know whether to return tomorrow as a volunteer tomorrow and bite the bullet just so I can go and get his number. I have no idea what to do, but staying home is just making me depressed. Tomorrow is my last chance, so I need a plan; FAST!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 August 2011):
 The course hasn't ended yet, so before you think of volunteering for a longer period of time, see what tomorrow brings. Make yourself available for conversation with him, try not to be too busy or occupied so that he will get a chance to talk to you. If you and him had a good connection, the connection should still be there. He'll know it is probably the last day you and him meet too, and if he's been checking you out he'll want to move things along as well.
So just play this by ear and see how tomorrow goes, talk to him to see if the connection is still there, and if it is you can eventually say something like "It's been interesting taking this course, too bad I was ill when the course is so short. It's been really great meeting you!" Then smile.... if he smiles back and says how great it's been to meet you too, then you can suggest "Hey, maybe you want to meet up sometime to do (on of the things you have in common, you mentioned there were many so take your pick)".
If you're too nervous to ask him out like that you can say "Maybe I'll see you around?" Or something like that. That tells him you are interested in meeting you again, although he'll have to do a lot more work trying to track you down and find you again. But if he's interested enough he'll do it.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (11 August 2011):
 Ah, just do it, go. Let's say it's 20 years from now and you're thinking back to this. What would you regret more? Staying at home so you don't get embarrassed by going back or going there, getting embarrassed and having a shot with this guy?
You don't have much to lose. If anything, it's a chance you're taking!
If you do go, have a chat with him first. Don't ask for his number and don't ask him out. Let him ask you out. My favourite method is to mention something you want to go to (a movie, a play, a band, etc) but how none of your friends want to go with you. If he's looking for an opportunity to spend time with you he might offer to go with you. This way he asks you out and if he doesn't you haven't lost any face.
So go and let us know what happens :)
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