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Together for a month and I can't get over my ex

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Question - (9 February 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 9 February 2011)
A female Australia age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Im having trouble getting over my ex.

Im 16.

My now ex i turning 19.

we were together over a month, then he left me for his ex from before me who has currently been saying she is into girls not guys, but within 3 days of him leaving me, he got back together with her, within 2weeks of them being back together they got engaged.

They have broken up multiple times in the past.

she said i was doing her a favor by taking him away from her when he and i first got together.

and now im left, heartbroke, with no friends that care.

I dont know how to move on, we talk atleast twice a week. I lay in bed every night just thinking he would come back. i love him so much. i could be pregnant to him and he seems to care more about an online game then me maybe carrying his child.

The day he left me he kissed me and told me he loves me but he cant do it anymore, i asked if it was for his ex. he said no, he said he doesnt love her, he said he wasnt going to be with anyone for awhile.

Then that night he went up there and told her he loves her and that he stopped loving me awhile ago.

I asked him about it, he admitted to it all.

I asked why he continued to stay with me and have sex with me, he said cause he didnt know if he loved me or not, and he enjoyed it.

Is there anything i can do to make him come back and love me again, iv been in love before, but i cant do this without him, im struggling. I cry every night about it, i just want him back.

Please help, i need it.

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A male reader, answerlessdreams United States +, writes (9 February 2011):

First off it has only been a month - I can't really say that is a huge relationship (although at 16 I know it seems like the world of time.) This guy is what I like to call a user.

Here is where lights should be going off in your head.

"He seems to care more about an online game then me maybe carrying his child"

"He said cause he didn't know if he loved me or not, and he enjoyed it."

From these statements - He seemed to be there for sex, not a relationship. He was playing games with you - I doubt he truly loved you. A month is way to short to know that. He is a loser and you are better off without this guy. If he loved you - he would be with you. I know it hurts and this seems harsh, but you are dodging a bullet with this guy.

Now for the bigger issue at hand, which is bigger than the whole thing with him leaving you. Its time to go get tested for pregnancy ASAP. Secondary to that for STDS. Go to http://www.plannedparenthood.org to find one close to you. Either get a friend to take you or your parents.

Let us know if you have more questions!

Best of luck.

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