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writes:Mod note: Original TitleI am in a relationship that I am unsure about. Certainly I love my boyfriend but I feel very unfullfilled. I am 32 yrs old. My most desire in the past 5 yrs is to have a family, husband and a home and I don;t have neither. I feel like a ticking timebomb as though my age is creeping up on me so quickly and feel like a failure about my dreams. I wish I could stop the clock. Maybe turn back time....I am happy with most of my past but I can never make decisions regarding love. I hang on for too long...I wait for my heart to give me a clear answer to aviod a mistake. But now at 32 and wanting to have kids, I feel I don't have time. I am in a relationship with a man that I have been with for 2 years. I feel we both have doughts due to issues that we have both caused. I think we are in love but scared. Of what? I am 5hrs flight from home, in another country, my support system is not here. I enjoy living away but miss my true friends and family. Most of all, my support system. I am afraid to let go of that. I don't know what to do. I am so torn. When do you know if it's right or if it's wrong? Please help!! I struggle with my clock and uncertainties everyday. Am I really that old to want to have a baby someday? People make me feel like I have ancient eggs and I need to "go or get off the pot". How can I make things clear in my heart. I feel young and beautiful but at the same time I feel like I am reaching oldmaidville... Reply to this Question
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reader, youmademe  +, writes (19 July 2010):
I totally understand. I am 31 years old, and want the same things and don't have them. People do make you feel old when you are over 30. But we all know you can have kids over the age of 30. If this is something you really want, you need to find someone that wants these things as well, like now. I left my bf of 8 years, because I knew we would never get married or have kids. I felt I was wasting my time. You also have to be careful not to just go for any man that wants these things. I want to be in love with the person I marry and have kids with. I hope you look for that as well.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (19 July 2010):
 If you married him, would your in laws be supportive of you? More often than not, when people move to Canada they stay there. Only people who complain about the cold weather and feeling lonely move back to their own country. My mom did that and that's why I only lived my first three years in Canada. Having a baby is important but having a good home for you and the baby is more important. 2 years is enough time for people to decide where to call home. I can tell you Canada is a good place to raise kids. Maybe your parents might be interested to move here one day.
My decision would lean towards more staying with your boyfriend. Your spouse is the one you live everyday with, for the rest of your life.
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