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female
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30-35,
Annalisa
writes:As an Opera singer, the arrival of spring means I get booked to sing at wedding ceremonies the world over. My problem is I've been getting really emotional recently and my songs have become more actual prayers for the couples I watch getting married!The brides are always beautiful and the groom is usually smiling and proud... But how long will it last?Too many people, nowadays, marry in church just because it's traditional and romantic, but have never actually been to Mass before. They have no idea what they are actually doing, and even worse, neither partner really knows how the other feels about it!Talking to friends, most believe in something vague and all see marriage in their future. However, most just want to find someone caring yet exciting, who they expect to divorce if ever they get out of line.That is not what marriage is about!Man and woman come together in marriage because our nature makes us need companionship. We need to know that we won't grow old alone, that whenever we are weak, ill, far from God, one person will always be there to support us and lead us back to strength and happyness. We marry to insure emotional stability to children we may have. Today, instead, people just have children, then dispense of their marriage and let the kids get on with it! I am well aware that people change, get let down, have a right to happyness. But if we placed our lives in the hands of God before we even before we started dating, we would then be able to make firm decisions about our relationships, learning to love one another through knowledge of each other's thoughts and beliefs, through our growing respect for each other. People change, yes, but our values remain! If you know that you want to settle down and live happily ever after, ask your partner what they want from life. Don't assume they want the same as you do, just because you love each other. If their values are different from yours, if they aren't ready to settle, leave before the love gets too strong!And if you make it before that altar together, know that you are asking God's blessing for your union. He gives it lovingly and is always there to support us. But we must work at our relationship, pray together and for each other. When things are rocky, let's not loose faith in each other, but remember that we're in this together. Talk to your partner and clear issues, don't look for support from others. Don't go to sleep on an argument, be always ready to forgive or admit you're in the wrong. Everyone is weak and lost from time to time. We're here to carry each other and be examples of God's presence in the world! Let us shine like beacons of light in this world full of pain, suffering, selfishness and tears.The more the lights, the least the darkness; the more the love and understanding, the less the sorrow.
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (8 February 2008):
Annalisa is verified as being by the original poster of the question When I met my husband, we spent most of our dates talking. Although we got physical very early on in the relationship, we were interested in really getting to know each other. Although he was not religious, we both agreed that if we were ever going to have children together, we should share similar values. He attended a course to find out what the Catholic Church teaches, and he was truelly inspired. He converted and then proposed to me. We were married within a year of knowing each other, but no-one could fault our decision, because in that year we had made a serious effort to lay the fundations for a life long partnership. The first year was a real test, but we supported each other through every trouble and that made our love grow in intensity and strength.
I wish what I've got to everyone in the world!
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reader, happyholly +, writes (7 February 2008):
I agree with what you are saying, i never went 2 church but i did get married in one. I now go to church most Sundays so we all have to start somewhere. If i had not got married in church i may never have found God. There may be others out there like me, one visit and your hooked.
Love Holly x
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