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*dm424
writes:My ex whom I dated for a year and a half broke up with me about 7 months ago. It turned out she left me for someone else which was heartbreaking at the time, but now im over it. Anyways I stumbled across my ex after not talking to her in the longest time randomly today. What was at first just a an awkward "hello" turned into spending the whole day together all smiles and laughs. It was almost eerie how close we were again... laughing about old times together, planning on hanging out more often, taking words out of each others mouths. After a while I realized I still loved her just as much as I ever did. I eventually just told her I still loved her so I could be as honest with her as possible. She told me she still loved me as well, but we just dropped it at that. We didnt say what we were going to do about us still loving each other. And then I learned that she is now single again. I'm so confused right now I could scream. I thought I was over this girl but now i dont know... the feelings i had today were pretty intense. I would love to think we could try again... especially with how well we were getting along, but i want to make sure i'm not just fooling myself into believing this hopeful fantasy of getting back together. Any advice as how to approach this? Any signs to look for that hints she wants to get back? I want to make this work... but I don't want to get too attached to her again if its all for nothing.much appreciated,mike
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reader, Bigryan0301 +, writes (21 January 2007):
Dont trust her she could do it again
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): I concur with the other Aunts. It sounds like you both have forgotten and forgiven, what happened in the past. I would definitely go slow, to gauge your true feelings for her. Sometimes, feelings of loneliness makes us romanticize overly much and we miss past loves for the wrong reasons. And as a result, a reconciliation can end up being a painful thing. But if you don't take the chance you'll never know, will you? So take your time, think this through with maturity and clarity. I am sure she will be doing the same. But it could work-it's happened to many couples. Take care and good luck
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reader, Nikita  +, writes (20 January 2007):
 Hi, well if you believe in second chances then I think you should take that chance. Next time you see her, ask her if she wants to give it another go and if she does then fine. Lay some ground rules though first. Make it clear that you want to take it slowly and that you need to trust that she wont repeat the mistake she made originally because you dont want to get hurt again.There will be no third chances if she leaves you this time. Good luck and be happy. x
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reader, Millyella  +, writes (20 January 2007):
 Yes, you're both single now. Just ask her straight out if she'd like to start seeing each other again. Better to do it sooner rather than later; if you guys spend time together without clarifying things then you could get hurt. If she doesn't want to start again, it's better to know now.
Good luck to you; you deserve to be happy!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (20 January 2007):
 If she's single and you're single and you can forgive and trust her for everything that happened between you before then go for it!! I would be sure that she isn't planning to hurt you again though because you don't deserve that!
CD
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