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writes: For the past 5 months, my every thought has dwelled on just one person. But about 2 months ago, I stopped being able to see them. So I took matters into my own hands. I've driven past their house, waited for them after work, and followed them home many times. Just a few days ago, one of their friends did something about it. They both caught up with me at the gas station. They asked me if I was done, and drove off when I said yes. But I'm not done. I just can't stop. I just want to talk to them. But they hang up on me when I call, and I'm too afraid to knock on their door. What should I do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2006): There are different kinds of stalkers. I've read the other replies to your situation and they all say the same thing. The first thing you need to do is research the types of stalking behaviours and then try and identify which type you fall under. Your next step is to ask yourself the question, "what will have to happen in order for me to stop". There's a limit as to how far any "Normal" person will go. Notice I used the term "normal". If you come up with a dangerous answer for example: I would have to kill them; they would have to beat me or have me beaten; they would have to have me arrested, etc. then I agree with the therapy suggestions. Always be true to yourself and remember to love number one. Stalking is the pursuing of someone to fill a void that you have not filled within yourself, love you and be good to you because YOU are a beautiful person and YOU deserve to be set free from the bondage that you have held within yourself.Peace
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reader, becky05 +, writes (26 July 2005):
You should stop this obsessive behaviour now! thats what you should do.
You are a stalker.
This person has begun to notice that you are following them and it will only be a matter of time before they call the police on you.
They are not interested in having a relationship with you so I think you would be wise to move on before you get into trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2005): You know you have a problem with your obsession for this person. But recognizing a problem and being able to act on it don't always go hand in hand.
I suspect you will balk at the stalker label, saying your intent is not to scare or upset the person. And that may be true, but you have to realize that, whether it's intentional or not, you *are* scaring him/her. Think about it: You say you're afraid to knock on the door. What has made you afraid of that? Are you worried about an angry reception? Afraid of being told to get lost? Well, what you are doing instead of knocking on the door is a bigger creepout. If that can't get through to you, please try to find a professional who can help you deal with your obsession and your lack of control.
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (22 July 2005):
 STALKING is definition is "the willful, malicious and repeated following and harassing of another person" You are obsessed and you need to stop. That is very unhealthy creepy, obsessive behaviour not to mention...very frightening for this person you are obsessed with. Your behaviours are that of a criminal stalker and you are venturing into illegal areas where you will be "breaking the law" (harrassment) and he/she will be within their right to have you arrested. The anxiety you are inflicting on this person is cruel, heartless and you will land yourself in jail. If you can't or won't stop.. go get professional help. This person does not want you in their life..leave them alone. And once you get some help..go & do something purposeful with your life and gain some self-esteem back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2005): You're a stalker. This is dangerous behaviour and it's already escalated. No wonder she won't talk to you!
You won't get her attention this way, other than to frighten her - which I suspect is your true motive.
STOP RIGHT NOW. You're breaking a number of laws and you will be the subject of police attention if you don't back off. Either the person you're stalking will call the cops or someone she loves will.
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