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This new guy is so special..but I don't feel like I deserve him!

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Question - (5 May 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 5 May 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

So i've been in toxic relationships for the past 2 years. Horrible controlling relationships with too much abuse that i put up with. Now that's it's been like 3 months since my last one and i have a new boyfriend. He's a great guy we started off as friends and he's sweet and everything a girl could want but idk how to be a good girlfriend. I don't trust guys after what happened to me and i know he really likes me but i don't feel like i deserve him. He's great and i don't wanna break his heart. He doesn't deserve that. What do i do? You know to become a better gf?

Im 15.

He's 16.

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A female reader, iSmil3y United States +, writes (5 May 2009):

Try to get over the past and just think that this guy might be better than the other guys you've dated. Try to trust him because if you don't trust him then things won't work out. You have to be happy in this relationship, and you won't be if you're paranoid about him hurting you and he won't be either. The past is the past and it's never coming back so try to forget about the past and Trust this guy and things will work out just fine.

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A female reader, b.rye United States +, writes (5 May 2009):

b.rye agony auntYou've got some soul searching to do. If you want find yourself in a solid, happy relationship with ANYONE, you've got to be able to enter it without so much emotional baggage. Build a trusting relationship with yourself first. Counseling would be extremely helpful for you in this regard; to help you with organizing your feelings so you understand them, thus resolving these internal issues. Getting into a relationship with the kind of emotional weight you seem to carry, places a burden on the other person, and it is not their responsibility. Find and fix you first.

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A female reader, 48years  +, writes (5 May 2009):

48years agony auntJust be yourself and don't EVER cater to a man... he should cater to YOU!

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