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writes:Hi,So my boyfriend and I are going to different high schools this upcoming school year and he's not really worried.He's confident that we will be just fine together.I on the other hand am less worried than I used to be but I'm still worried. I think it's going to be difficult but we've managed to get through most of the summer and not seeing each other as often has been rough but we both seem to stay positive about our relationship and enjoy the times we are together.We even survived not talking for 5 1/2 days when I was at camp and was not allowed to have electronics for those days. (which may not be a big of a deal but we talked all day pretty much every day) So I only have one major concern. I am taking all honors classes and will be up to my eyeballs in homework so I probably won't have a lot of downtime and I hope to play basketball for my school so that will be another chunk of my life. Basically my questions are to you: 1. What are some ways we could study/ help each other study when we are taking different classes at different schools? 2. Is there any way/ system that could help me manage my workload and busy schedule? 3. Any unique date ideas that could help us with our school work and be able to spend time with each other? We both want to last as long as possible and I'm not expecting to be together forever but we both want to try because what's the point in the relationship if we aren't trying to last and be happy together for a long time? Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella +, writes (29 July 2015):
 That was a brilliant answer from AlmightyDuck. So good I don't think it could be improved upon.
Hope the OP found that answering an inspiration as it was full of great tips.
A 5 star winner indeed.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (14 July 2015):
 It's very nice to hear a young person posting about how to both balance her relationship and school life :) A lot of the time a lot of teenagers (even me for a while) Decided to give up on spending time doing assignments for school and simply just see my boyfriend.. which isn't a good way to live, and when you reach the end of highschool you really regret it, because you know you could of been putting your effort into work instead of relationships.
However I love the fact you want to balance both out, so here are a couple of suggestions regarding your question.
Weekends and school holidays are likely to be the only free time that you are going to get.. and during that time you are still gonna have to do coursework for highschool... which does suck, but when you find ways to balance your time out it can actually be fit into manageable chunks.
Firstly, you and your boyfriend can still study and help eachother even though you are both at two different schools and doing a variety of different subjects. I suggest a good way for you too to spend time together while getting stuff done is to simply do it together :) Have a certain day of the week where he comes over and you both just sit and do work... but make sure you actually do get on with it, its very hard to regain concentration when you have anyone you get a long with sat by you.. so maybe in order to even it out, have an hour or two sitting and doing work together, and then have a half an hour break where you just chill and chat... the best way to get things done quickly and effectively is to not overload yourself! If you try and get a whole assignment done in an hour your going to find yourself stressed tired and grouchy, which of course will not benefit your or your boyfriend. As for helping eachother, don't put too much pressure on yourself :) You are doing different subjects after all, so you might not be able to help him study as he might not be able to help you study... however another suggestion I have, is something that I used to do when I was studying that used to be fun for us both and help us learn and interact with eachother at the same time.
I used to make flashcards, for certain subjects that had a lot of key words that you had to memorize and learn. The best thing to do is draw a picture on the front about the pacific word and then have the definition and meaning of the word written on the back, so you can both take turns in doing flash cards that will help you both learn about your individual subjects.. its a two person job too which also makes it kind of fun.
For your second question.. drawing out a timetable for yourself can make a huge difference! Allocate yourself time periods to which you dedicate yourself to certain assingments and subjects. Pick days on which you want to see your boyfriend and days where you want to study with him or do work on your own. Having a routine and a plan can really make highschool and college a lot easier to get through, as if you just do things as the come you will soon find yourself with mountains of coursework and not much time to do it. Also, as I said earlier, do not overload yourself! Don't do school work to the point where your exhausted, don't leave it to the last minute and make sure you do things that you find fun, during the week. Stress is a killer, and if you get stressed, you will find yourself unable to think, so make sure you have both a balance of work and fun.
For number 3... like I said, flashcards are good and so are memorization games you can play with eachother that help you learn the words and terms involved in your course, as is simply talking about your subjects to eachother. Also doing coursework outside, always makes a huge difference, its relaxing and it calms you, not to mention it gives things a bit of difference than just being stuck indoors.. a nice thing to do would be to get lots of pillows and blankets in your back garden when the weather is good, build a fort and do your coursework in there for the day with your boyfriend, it makes things interesting!
You have a very wise head on your shoulders, and like I said, be kind to yourself and don't stress yourself out. You and your boyfriend may not last forever, but you never know... I have had plenty of friends who's relationships survived both highschool and college, so hopefully if you keep your stress levels down and make time for each other where you can, things should run smoother and hopefully make the fact your going to different highschools much easier. :) Good luck.
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