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reader, mynxx +, writes (31 October 2009):
mynxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your response.
All of you were great.Got some unexpected answers too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2009): Well, boobs don't rate as highly with me as with some of these guys. But I certainly like the overall figure & face to be nice.
If we're looking for a cheap screw, we'll take anyone who looks good & looks easy.
If we're looking for something real, then we want mostly the same things that women want. Social status and brains and personality are big ones.
And when we want a long term partner, I can't overstate the value of a woman who has kept her pants on. It's well known that women tend to "grow out" of their preference for bad boys. Well men tend to grow out of their desire for easy sluts too. Mostly when they want a real long term partner.
I just wanna click with her personality too. As much as anything else. There are tons of women that I have kinda liked but very few that I have felt that huge instant connection with. That matters a lot and it can override a lot of other sore spots.
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reader, alysha  + ♥, writes (30 October 2009):
 I am not a guy but I think-silhouette,eyes and of course boobs.... Danielepew is absolutely right.
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reader, Illithid  + ♥, writes (29 October 2009):
 This is my list, as a guy that's been cheated on by both of my serious relationships:
1. She needs to be Christian like I am, so we can share our faith and both be living by the same rules.
2. She needs to be Straight. You would think this is a given, but one girl was disinterested in men (using sex only as a way to control guys) and the other turned out to be more lesbian than straight.
3. Here's the BIG one. She needs to be mature, stable, honest. She has to be utterly trustworthy. I need to know she's going to have the integrity to at least be open with me.
She HAS to have those three: share my Faith, be Sexually compatible with me, and be Trustworthy. But what I WANT as the optional bonuses:
1. She shares my interests (at least in general, if not necessarily in specific).
2. She shares my sense of humor.
3. She has a similar energy level to me.
But what gets my eye at first? What immediately catches my attention for long enough for me to find out about any of the rest?
1. If she's cute, honestly her smile believe it or not is what makes the difference between "yeah she's cute" and "I want to talk to her"
2. If she's a little silly. Girls that are fun and laughing and comfortable get my attention.
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (29 October 2009):
 I agree with Caring Guy: it's not just one thing, but many, and so the right answer would be "I would need to check". Independence and intelligence are very important. SO IS HONESTY, by the way.
It's not just the spiritual or the intellectual in her, however, and we know it.
Besides her personality, 350% of NOT SPENDING HER WHOLE DAY NAGGING, I would say that the following politically incorrect stuff is important, too:
1. boobs
2. boobs
3. boobs
4. boobs
5. BOOBS
6. legs
7. behind
7. general shape
8. face
9. boobs.
and
10. boobs.
We can also add the savage sense of black humor :-).
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (29 October 2009):
1. Confident
2. Educated, and is doing soemthing with it
3. Committed to something- anything...
4. Sense of humor is vital
5. takes care of herself, metally, physically, spiritually
6. Looks fit in here somewhere, but acceptable range is huge.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (29 October 2009):
 I'm not a man, but I can tell you that confidence is something that should never be underestimated.
Regarding intelligence: The Stanford-Binet scale measures IQ, or a numerical intelligence score, but... there are MULTIPLE intelligences. For example: spacial, verbal, mathematical, musical, intrapersonal, and interpersonal.
A person who is exceptionally gifted in a particular area can be better in that area than people with higher IQ scores.
I'm not bragging, just an example: I taught myself to draw when I was about 2. I am always trying to improve, but everyone seemed to admire it and told me that I could work for Disney or Don Bluth (before his studios went bankrupt), and that was my ambition (one of my primary teachers squashed it, but that's another story!) Some of the people who admired my artwork have higher IQ scores than me.
I can play the guitar but I'm not sure how much of that is natural ability. I practice until my fingers bleed.
On the other hand, I can't read body language to save my life and I have screwed up a series of relationships, and I have had a series of brain farts today (I wasn't lying when I said I wasn't bragging!).
Everyone has some of the intelligences, but no one has ALL of them.
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reader, heartfullalove  + ♥, writes (29 October 2009):
 Well, 150 then. I once tested as 183 when I was 12, but I'll assume it was a flawed test. The things are a bit discredited anyway, heavily weighted in favour of educated whites. I don't think intelligence can be measured.
What I meant was, only geniuses need apply. (In theory. In practise I'm sure I've bent that particular rule once or twice.) Stephen Hawkins doesn't really do it for me, but no harm to him.
Inshallah!
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reader, satindesire +, writes (29 October 2009):
 Heartfullalove?! An IQ of 170?! Steven Hawkings is only 160 you know, and he's the SMARTEST human being on the planet?!
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reader, cheated  + ♥, writes (28 October 2009):
well for, what l look for in a woman.. a smile that glows when they look at you. also someone who is 100% comitted and faithful. someone who treats you equally and looks past your little floors to see all your positives.
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reader, Markingbad +, writes (28 October 2009):
 She's single. A sweet nature. Makes me laugh. Younger than me but wise. A bit shy. Doesnt take life to seriously.
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (28 October 2009):
There are hundreds of things that are important. Never just one thing. Men don't just look at a woman and fall in love because of one thing. They do it because of many things. Be independent, confident with yourself and your life, be able to stand up for yourself, be a little mysterious, have an open mind and be feminine at the right times and you won't generally go wrong. Don't ever just focus on one thing though. A woman must have depth to her so we can learn about her!
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reader, heartfullalove + ♥, writes (28 October 2009):
A savage sense of black humour, an IQ of at least 170 and an open mind.
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reader, Artfuldodger +, writes (28 October 2009):
Femininity
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