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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes: This guy I know just asked me to join his band. I was extremely excited by the offer and went for it. Because we have common friends, band kids (he) and choir kids (I) attend many of the same events, and I'v been going to school with him for almost four years now, I guess you could say this guy is my friend, too. So, knowing well that he is an overall sweet, talented, cool person, I figured we could work well together without many problems. Though I'm not exactly sure this is a problem, it's definitely distracting: within the past weeks we've been practicing, I'm pretty sure I've felt an extreme attraction to him. I'm not at all interested in being involved with him or anyone right now so, I haven't acted on the attraction. But, it's definitely intense and catches me off guard. I've known him four years and never felt this... And I don't know if he feels it, too. He kinda has a thing with someone already....Is it the music we're making that has me feeling like this? Or maybe- for those who read well into zodiac signs- could it be because he is a taurus and I'm a scorpio? (opposite signs)Any advice on how I should approach this attraction? Should I leave it be? am I reading into it too much?I'm just getting very distracted and, consequently, curious.Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 April 2014):
 Yes, you should leave it be, and yes you are reading too much into this.
So you are attracted to some guy... how strange :) OP, you are 16 -17, how boring life would be if you did not feel any attraction to young men around you. If it wasn't this one, it would be another.
If you are attracted it does not mean you've found your soul mate. You are attracted because you are flattered that he chose you to join his band ( yes, that's was a very nice sign of appreciation ), because you both have common interests and love music, and because you already thought well of him, even before your romantic feelings . I don't know about the astrological factor ( I don't give much credit to astrology ) , but, if we want to go by the book, yes, between opposite signs there's very often a mutual, superficial, physical attraction ( as for getting along it's all anothet story, because , after all, they are opposite in personality ). BUT :
- you say you don't want a bf right now
and, most of all - he already kinda has a thing with somebody else !
Leave him be. Do you want to try and mess up another girl's romance just because you feel somewhat of an attraction... which you are not really sure it means other than young hormons, and which you could not / would not turn into a relationship anyway ?? Ok they say " all is fair in war and love ", but this is not love, this is barely a semi-crush !
Enjoy your attraction, without overthinking it and without feeding it , and pretty soon your eye will be caught by some other talented , unattached musician...
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