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This has made me question my sexual preferences!

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Question - (20 May 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 20 May 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi i'm in a bit of a dilemma, i'm 17 years old and female and i can't stop obsessing over this thing that happened. Well one day i went over to my friends house like just to see how she was cus she had been ill the past couple of days. As i went in her mum told me she was upstairs in her room. I went up to her room but opened her door slowly just anough so i could see in but when i looked in she was there completely naked masturbating! I couldn't believe it but i didn't go in and stop it or anything because the weird thing was i got really turned on by it [text deleted]. It felt so wrong but i didn't want to stop if that sounds right? [text deleted] she sort of heard [me] and quickly got dressed and looked around I hid and went and said hello 5 minutes later. I keep replaying it in my head she's like my best friend and has been for as long as i can remember i've never thought of a girl in that way before but now my minds racing at a mile a minute. I keep imagining myself with her even like having sex together i don't have a boyfriend at the moment but its really made me question my preferences i don't know what to tell her when i see her again, please help!

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A female reader, masquerade711 Canada +, writes (20 May 2010):

masquerade711 agony auntJust because you saw her masturbating and were turned on does not mean you are a lesbian.

Are you having these thoughts about any other woman, or just her? Sometimes the love we have for our best friends can translate into a sexual love, or make us feel an attraction for them, especially after seeing what you saw.

I had similar feelings for my best friend in high school, and wondered for a long time if I was bi-sexual. But I only had those thoughts about her, no other woman. Hence my answer.

masq

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (20 May 2010):

dirtball agony auntWell, you may want to come clean and tell her you saw her. Maybe see if she wants to try something. She may be weirded out, but if you can't talk to your best friend about this, then who can you talk to? You may not be gay, but you may be. I'd say, ask her if you can give her a kiss. I'm a firm believer that you can tell a lot by a kiss. I used to think I was bi, then I kissed a guy and felt nothing, just weird. I realized at that point I was completely hetro.

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