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writes:What did his comment "No, I won't go out on a date with you" mean when I answered him, well, I didn't ask and I am too old for you, I am old enough to be your mother, so I would not consider dating you ....He then answered, "you are not old enough to be my Mom, give me some credit." And the other weird thing about this is he flirts with me a lot for months now, and when he asked me this question, he first called my name so I had to walk over to ask him what he wanted, and then when I said "What", he did not answer at first, and this other guy standing there said, "Well, you did call her name." And then he just said "No, I will not go out on a date with you."Is this some new reverse psychology pick up line, or does he want to set me straight that he is not interested in dating me,,,,he is 28, I am well over 35....Weird.
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (3 February 2007):
 Gosh, guys like this need a swift boot in the butt, don't they? Quite the contrary, I think he liked you a lot and he had plans for you, hun. He's been flirting with you and he made an assumption that you would be pleased with his attentions, dear. But because you likely weren't 'all over him' his fragile ego took a hit. So his comment meant, 'he was going to reject you before you rejected him', basically to give his poor, flagging pride/ego a boost. But what is really bothersome, is he thought nothing of saying it, at the risk of ill mannered and being disrespectful to you. Don't tolerate crap like that from anyone. This is a immaturity problem, on his part and he made a total ass of himself. Let it go . Don’t second guess yourself and I am glad you are not playing by his rules. Keep being as honest and direct and if you have to deal with him, a polite detachment would be best.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (3 February 2007):
 If I were you, I wouldn`t even bother to converse with the guy, except a polite "hello" when un-avoidable. I wouldn`t approach him and initiate a conversation, why should you? You`re worth more than that! Put this silly man out of your head, your dream date is just around the next corner, and it most certainly is not this man. I would like to see you being more assertive, perhaps a course? Evening Classes are a great way to meet Like-minded people, Genuine people, Nice people who don`t play silly tricks like you`ve experienced. I hope you`ll put another question on this site: "Too many Men, which one should I date?" With Love, Heather.
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reader, AskEve  + ♥, writes (2 February 2007):
 It seems very strange that he should shout you over and just SAY that to you out of the blue. Maybe he was showing off in front of his friend? Maybe he wanted you to say "shame, would have been nice?" I must admit it's the funniest pick up line I've heard in a long time.
I suggest talking to him when you get him on his own and asking him exactly what he meant by that remark? He might tell you the real reason when there are no friends around. If he says it's because he really wouldn't go out on a date with you then be ready with your answer. ie "Just as well because you weren't asked in the first place" or "you can say that again, I'm much more choosy who I choose to date!" That should wipe the smile off his face.
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