A
female
age
30-35,
*ittykat678
writes:I've been dating a 11th grader since yesterday, and now he's been telling people he's going to have sex with me, like I'm a sex trophy to him.I never even had my first kiss and I'm a virgin the most i've ever done with a guy was hug, until he came along.I just can't stay with this guy amd i can't because he makes me feel uncomfortable. And i don't know why i've dated him, but i feel like such an idiot.Now my older brother is going to drop me off at school and talk to this guy, and my older brother is 18 and in the Forces. i'm really scared and confused on what will happen, what's more is some of my friends are angry with me, and i don't have them with me at this time please help! Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (8 March 2011):
Kittykat you sound like a nice woman with a caring brother. I am sure ypu will find a nice guy as you are so young. Good luck and cheers! Be Positive and remember many guys would like to be with you! Just keep looking for them
A
female
reader, kittykat678 +, writes (19 February 2011):
kittykat678 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you everyone. Your answers mean alot to me, but I didn't get my older brother involved. He involved himself and he was the one that found out about these rumors and decided to drive me to school and drop a hint to this guy in a blunt way that he'll hurt him if he ever hurts me. My friends are angry at me because of something else though, and it makes me hate myself that it seems I lost them forever and I don't have them now for when I really need some support. It makes me hate myself even more and feel like I don't deserve friends or a boyfriend that will treat me right or hapiness ever or even being alive. My whole life is and always will be filled with only disapointments. I know I sound like a whining teenager and there are people far worse off than me and I'm sorry for that. I just want to tell someone, anyone, what I'm feeling right now. I completely hate myself.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): Either you tell him to get lost, or you continue seeing him. If you keep seeing him then eventually you will be asking yourself "Why did I sleep with him?" instead of just "Why am I seeing him?"
So either you respect yourself or you don't. Pick one.
...............................
A
male
reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (18 February 2011):
I'm not sure you even need to get your brother involved. I think you should just say it like it is to the guy you are seeing.Tell him he is out of order going around saying things like that and you won't stand for it. Ask why he said it in the first place.Then tell him to go and find someone else who can be his sex trophy.Why are your friends angry with you? Because you've dated this guy? Well you won't be dating him for very long if you've got any sense (which you do have)
...............................
A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (18 February 2011):
 I'll tell you like you were my own granddaughter...RUN! this boy is Trouble with a capital T...trust your gut instinct-it is a survival mechanism. good luck.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): This happened to my younger sister at your age and I think she handled it incredibly well all on her own.First: Call off your brother. He should be a last resort.Second: Confront him in person about it. Ask him why he said what he did and tell him how it has changed your mind about the relationship: you don't want to have sex with him. He probably tells his friends he's going to sleep with you because he wants them to think he has a leash on you. If you confront him, (particularly in front of his friends or in public as my younger sister did), you let him no he has no such leash. He will respect you after that, if not for being honest, then out of fear for his reputation. If you call in your brother, he might start a rumor mill about your being a coward.Don't be scared. He's not only a jerk, but a coward for saying what he said.Good luck and let us know how it goes.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): I would tell him that he is a jerk! That you know what he is telling people and that you're done with him for good. Hopefully your brother speaking to him will help also.
Try to talk with your friends so you will have more support now.
Take care.
...............................
|
