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Think I have bi-curious feelings for my best friend but should I tell her?

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Question - (26 January 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 28 January 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am female and I think I might be bi or bi-curious, because I like my best friend quite a bit and I don’t know whether I should tell her or not. We’re quite close. It’s kind of weird but, we just have moments where we look at each other and somehow just know what each other are thinking. I know that the previous sentence may sounds crazy, but I don’t know if I should tell her how I feel because a number of reasons. I think that it would especially complicate things if I told her since I would have to see her everyday afterwords if this doesn’t work out, since she lives down the hall in the dorm we live in and we have similar schedules. Not only would it be for this semester, but we also have plans to room together later on and if everything goes sour then I basically lost my living arrangements for next year. Additionally, she is one of the very, very few friends that I can actually honestly talk to and completely trust.

I don’t really know if she would be interested into going any further with me as well, because every time I try to figure out her stance by bringing up the bi/gay/lesbian matter she talks about these lesbian friends that were really obnoxious and how they basically betrayed her. Or how another one of her friends came out and how she didn’t know anything at all. However, judging on her personality and speculating on some of her morals she doesn’t seem like a person that is completely against bi/gays/lesbians (and she’s also not very religious), but she does seem like a person that follows common social morals (E.G. Society says that a man and a women should date, marry, live together, and then have babies so I should too).

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A female reader, TeRah_01 United States +, writes (28 January 2010):

i would just go ahead and tell her...first start off by telling her that you think you might be bi or bi-curious. but wait to tell her that you like her until you hear what she says about it. if she is a really good friend she should stand behind you no matter what. then if shes okay with it and still wants to live together tell her then or whenever you move in together. you never know she might want to try it.

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