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Things were fine with my LDR boyfriend on Friday but he hasn't responded to my texts or calls since then

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Question - (26 August 2013) 4 Answers - (Newest, 27 August 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have been in long distance relationship for 6 months. We talk on the phone and text everyday.

We spoke on Friday night as usual and nothing was wrong we made each laugh and spoke like we usually do. We said goodbye and hung up.

He did not call me Saturday or Sunday totally not like him I text him and the messages were delivered I called several times and he did not answer.

I got so worried that I text his brother who he lives with to find out if he is ok. He said he was fine.

I don't get why he is ignoring me. It really hurts. I even sent a text asking why and he has not responded but it has been delivered to his phone.

What shall I do? Do you think he has ended it but just does not want to tell me? I'm so confused.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (27 August 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony aunthe knows you are worried...

you know he is fine

whether or not he's breaking up with you should be a moot point as this behavior is off from normal behavior and his explanation better be stellar or you should break up with him.

it's Tuesday here... have you heard from him?

now you have been LDR for 6 months...

have you two met in person already?.. if not why not (and if not it's a huge red flag)

were you local before you were LDR?

what's the plan to end the distance?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2013):

It's very weird behaviour and UNLESS he has a valid explanation, you need not be with him- IF this turns out to be some mental way to break up with you after a six month relationship, he's a serious s*** and it's not a reflection on you, it's a very callous thing to do, an appalling way to treat someone- HIS issue.

He may just be extremely lazy or be under the presumption that any LDR isn't serious and can't last in the long run, therefore doesn't need much effort, that it is even acceptable to break up with someone like this. May feel like any relationship is too much effort.

Unless he's suffered some serious stressful or emotional blow, he's not mature or emotionally available enough for a relationship.

To be honest it better be god damn good. Don't accept any general cr** because if it isn't an appalling way to break up with you, it's still very rude, thoughtless, and half - arsed, the sort of thing he should be dumped for.

Make sure you get to the bottom of it, and that you're happy with His explanation. Otherwise get rid.

Good luck! Xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2013):

I think maybe you are over reacting a little, it's only been three days after all. If he has not said anything before, there is probably a reasonable explanation for it. He might just be busy, or it might be som kind of misunderstanding.

Give it a few more days. When you have been in a relationship for six months, there is no reason why he would suddenly end it. You are both adults, ending a relationship like that would be beyond immature.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2013):

I wouldn't contact him again. He knew you were worried and concerned about him, but didn't think enough of you, to let you know he was ok. Maybe he isn't man enough to break up with you, so he is ignoring the messages. Don't waste you're time with someone who treats you like that.

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