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Things seem good but why does he say he can't handle it?

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Question - (13 February 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 13 February 2008)
A female age 41-50, *uddles2008 writes:

What does a bloke mean when he says he can not handle a relationship with not just me but anyone although things were so good?

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (13 February 2008):

Tisha-1 agony auntYou're lucky that your love interest is being honest with you. In my experience, if a man tells you he's not ready for commitment to you, that means he's not ready. Take him at his word.

If I were you, I would make sure I have other interests to keep me busy. Don't hang your future on this man or blame him for not being in the same state of readiness that you are. Keep busy, don't avoid meeting or dating other men.

It's all about timing and it seems that you two have different clocks.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008):

I agree with the last post. It generally means that he just isn't ready, or doesn't want to be, in a relationship at the moment. I wouldn't take it too much to heart, if anyone says this to you. It's not usually a personal thing. He'd probably just be wanting to keep his freedom, probably flirt around with other girls, and explore different things in life.

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A male reader, Ponungalungb United States +, writes (13 February 2008):

Ponungalungb agony auntIt usually means that they don't want one or all of the following: to be tied down; to be depended upon; to have to answer to anyone; to be hooked up with one person only.

It usually stems from the fear of losing one's individual freedom.

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