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writes:i have recently found out that a large group of my frieds including my ex have been saying that my best friend controls my life . Which i dont beleive to be true . However i want to show them i am independent and most of all i want to show my exboyfriend that i am in control of myself ... because i want to gain back his confidence in me . I dont want to hurt my best friend .
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (5 September 2006):
 Who's being controlling?? It sounds like your bf and these other friends are! You sound like you are popular, but way too nice to people, who are not respecting you, just for who you are. It's time to be stronger and set some boundries. Don't allow others to tell you how to think and behave. If you are in a happy friendship with your best friend, then no one has the right to tell you "you shouldn't be friends with this person'. You make those independent decisions for yourself and choose friends, who are good for you. If you believe she is 'not' controlling you and is a loyal, steadfast friend, then stick to your guns. Your bf and these other people in this group will just have to realize, you are in control of your own life and you are independent. If they can't accept that about you, then they are acting upset only because they can't 'control you" themselves. Stay strong and they take you, your friends and anyone you choose ro have in your life....as is. Good luck, dear.
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reader, helpful girl +, writes (5 September 2006):
 thats easy enough all you have to do is not go by their rules e.g if your best friend says do this say sorry im doing other things, also maybe because you 2 are constantely together if you are that could be another reson for them saying that try spending just a little time away from your best friend then when their out and people see your best friend hanging with some one else not you their think oh geuss she inderpendable.
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