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writes:There's someone I don't think I will ever be with, but I think I may be in love with her.how do i get over it and not feel for her anymore? ive tried the last couple of weeks but just thinking about it isnt helping too much. the only way i feel nothing for her is if i imagine her dead - which scares me that i can think such a thing! btw i am likely to bump into her once a week or fortnight by chance, so i just cant eliminate all trace of her from my memory. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): I know its a cliche but time really is a great healer. I've been in the same position as you and it hurts like hell for a while, but gradually you do get over it. Can you possibly see her less frequently than you do now? The less you see of her, and the more time you spent meeting new people, the better.
As easy as it is to feel down and mope around, you should really try to make yourself do things to take your mind off it. Maybe spend more time with your friends or take up a new hobby.
I went travelling just over a year ago and before I went I was still really hung up on this guy, I thought I'd never get over him. But travelling really opened my eyes and gave me such a different perspective. Most importantly it was something new to focus my attention on. It taught me so much, and now this guy barely crosses my mind at all.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondude, i have asked her. she didnt exactly say no but she certainly didnt say yes. things are just kinda fading between us now, and im not chasing after her making myself look like an idiot... i think its best we both moved on.
besides, i asked something completely different! but thanks all the same for the kind words.
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reader, jaffautd +, writes (9 April 2007):
first of all i would like to know why you think you never will be with this girl, have you asked, i understand though i have had the same sort of thing but i learned to ask, you have nothing to lose really, you think she wont go for you so if she says no you are ready for the knock back, but if she says she is intrested you will be over the moon, ask to take her for a drink or something tell her you find her attractive and you want to get to know her more
good luck mate
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reader, say_anything +, writes (9 April 2007):
if it helps at all, i think i know exactly how you feel & it does really hurt.
if you want to try & get over her, so to speak, then you don't have to imagine her dead - maybe try imagining yourself happy with somebody else?
i hope it works out for you
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