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writes:Two years ago I went to a party and there was a friend after me, David, and my ex around; both wanted to get off but I refused in a friendly manner maybe I flirted a bit with my ex and a girl in my gang, Ann, was there, she told my friend David that I had been chatting with my ex, she also told other friends I had been with them both and one of them, John started saying I had got off with them both, David and my ex on different days, which made me feel quite upset I was on the brink to stop talking to them all but my ex now we take on but things are not the same as John wanted me to ditch Ann and David wanted me to ditch John and my ex, Moreover there was a debate on my gang on whose fault it was.... I feel sort of disenchanted about them on and would like then to worry about their own things, Now John wants to get off with me and I feel like calling him bastard half the time as he has been critisising all us pretending he is so nice and he has been ditched by all girls he has tried to pull, then I tried a couple of relationships but it didn't go ok I don't care about what happened anymore but my friends keep behaving as if I hada to choose between them, moreover David is upset because I do not want to go out with him..... I think I need a real man rather then my ex who wants me back again but it's difficult to move on, Ann has cancer now and she is a very nice girl and we have made some new friends together that are starting to mix with our new group because of her tendency to get people together which I would find positive in a different situationany tips apart from moving town?love
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reader, twilightdiamond  +, writes (17 October 2006):
 okay, your situation sounds really confusing. But I get the basic message. I have never had that problem. My sisters say Im mean but I think Im just "selective". I only hang out with people I really do like. If anyone I dont like comes along they are politely greeted, put up with for a while and then ditched. I know some people might think thats B!%@#Y of me but why should anyone have to waste their time putting up with people they dont like. Find out which of the people (Ann, David, John, etc) you like and only hang out with them. It might be dificult in Ann's case because of the cancer but just explain that if she wants to be your friend she has to understand your how you feel. These people dont sound like they are your friends. Dont put up with their behaviour.
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