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writes: Me aad my husband have been together for 4 years. The problem I have is that I have 2 boys, 15 and 20 years old and he has a duaghter 9. He always complains that my boys are lazy, but when his daughter is over she is not made to do anything, including clean her room or wash her dishes, and he also does not disipline her if she does something wrong. Also, when she is at our house if there is someone else to play with she wants nothing to do with her dad, however, if there is no one to play with she wants her dad's total attention. When my husband gives me a hug in her presence she comes over and gets in between us trying to give us a hug. How do I approach this matter without making my husabnd mad? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2006): Firstly you are lucky that you get to see your children everyday your husband does not have that luxury so maybe you feel there is a difference made between your boys and his daughter because he makes more effort- well obviously he wants to make a fuss of HIS daughter when he gets the opportunity.
By the way newsflash your kids are grown one of thems 20 for goodness sake obviously you expect them to clean up after themselves I dont know any 9 year old that is expected to do their own dishes!!
Also all kids are the same if they have a friend to play with they just crack on otherwise they want a parents full attention. Maybe she gets in between you to hug you both because she wants a bit of attention.
I can see where you are coming from in that she needs to be disciplined but your husband is in a difficult position he doesnt want to be the bad guy, but in all honesty and it is only my opinion I think you need to realise that it is you that is jealous of his daughter, I think when she comes to your home your husband wants to drop everyhthing for her and you dont like it!!
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