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writes:i am 15 and im craving a baby really badly i feel ready for one, i have had a virtual baby to try and cut me off this situarion but it made me want a baby even more what shud i do can you help me please ..xx
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reader, Miamine +, writes (14 April 2010):
 Why don't you read this young girls post.. she's only 13, she's got a house, a kid and for her everything is so easy... maybe she's got better idea's than us adults about how cheap raising children are..
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/isaac-and-me.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): ok hun....you need to really think about this and there are several things you need to consider...
1. you are too young to be having sexual intercourse. its illegal
2. at 15 your body is not at the ideal time to be having a baby and the liklihood of complications during pregnancy and labour (and for the rest of your life) are increased (im a midwife, i know about these things!)
3. you will not be financially stable to support a baby at this age. they are expensive!!!
4. you dont have your own home and own space to provide support for a baby (you may live in a nice home with your parents but you wont have your own space).
5. you are still in education. you dont want a baby now and then have no qualifications to get a good job to provide for your baby
6. babies turn into toddlers who turn into children, into teenagers, into adults. they last forever!! and they are demanding!! you may have had a virtual baby, but a real one is for life
7. at 15 you havent had had much life experience. i doubt you have the full knowledge you need to properly care for a baby.
8. when you and your friends are all older you wont be able to go out and have fun like the rest of them. you will have responsibilities. you will have to stay in and be a mum. you will miss out.
there are probably many more things to say also but i cant think of them right now. The thing is, i know how you feel. i have wanted a baby since i was your age (im 21 now). but you need to realised that a baby is a real person who deserves a good life, a good well supported up bringing and at 15 you just simply are not old enough to garuntee a child all these things. Wait a few years. get some money behind you. get some life experience. have fun!! then when you are older, more mature and in a stable relationship you should have a baby. Dont throw your life away. its too precious and you need to enjoy growing up, learning who you are!!
i hope this helps. i dont mean it to sound like a lecture. these are all the things i tell myself to stop me having one. and im so glad i havent had one yet...i know i will be able to do a better job when im older
write again if you need anymore advice but please think really seriously about everything!!
xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 April 2010):
A virtual baby does not cost £10,000 a year. A real baby does. Also, you're under 16, so it's illegal anyway. And you've not finished education. The point is, having a baby at your age will be very hard. You lose your social life, you'll have to work VERY hard and you may not be able to bring your baby up in the way you might like. There is plenty of time for you to have a baby when you're older, you have a career and you have enough money to bring a baby up in a good environment.
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