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*urvaciousbabe21
writes:I feel that me and my boyfriend of over a year have fallen into a romance rut. I want to try something that will really wow him and hopefully spark something inside of him to make him show more affection. Any suggestions??
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reader, louloulou1991  +, writes (20 February 2009):
 hi im lou...thought i would try and help you a bit:)me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for 2 years now and i had the same problem throughout the first year, maybe try and show him something different from daily life, speak to him about anything 'funky' he wants to do even if its goin on holiday or just fooling about a bit under the sheets, gettin my tonge pierced kept mine happy for a while lol. i doubt it will even go that far, he probably just wants something different and speaking to him will help you understand what he wants and how far you will go too,hope this helps.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): Just get used to it. Romance lasts about 8 months. You have a choice of changing partners every few months for the rest of your life or get into the 'rational' phase of the relationship. Based on your age and an average life expectancy, you have 54 years to go.
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reader, eocalla +, writes (19 February 2009):
Let me give you the guys answer to this question.
As much as you're fretting over a lack of romance, your guy may very well be clueless about it and not even have noticed anything missing. Its possible that to him things seem perfectly normal. The previous replies were correct. We can not read your minds!
Fortunately for you, we are very receptive to blatant and direct messages.
However, instead of going up to him and saying "baby, i wish we had more romance in our relationship!" you should be proactive in your approach.
Take the initiative to convey your desires to him in a language he can understand and will pay close attention to.
Try dressing sexier. If there are outfits or lingerie you own that you know he fancies you in, start wearing that stuff! Short skirts are good. Thongs. low cut shirts that show off your breasts. When you guys go out together, make yourself up as if you were going on a first date. Take that extra time to go the extra mile and make yourself look good. He WILL notice this and hopefully he will complement you on your great looks. This is the first step to the romantic fireworks you desire.
Also try to get him to do things out of the ordinary with you. If all you guys do together is watch TV or whatever then switch it up. Go for a walk in the park instead. Just get out of the routine. This is more effective that it may seem! Trust me.
Get freaky between the sheets! Try some new sex poses. Go down on him in a movie theater or something. Anything!
Every time things get mundane between me and my girl this is how I fix it and it always ends with a renewed connection between us.
Good luck and I'm sure if you try these things you will have at least some success.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): I would have to agree with satindesire men don't react to subtlety. You should try the direct approach. But if you want to do something special think about his interests, does he like a certain band, or sport team take him to a game or concert. You could make him his favorite meal and have it waiting for him while you are dressed super sexy. But definitely do something that he is interested in not what you are. Men do respond when you do something for them that they like, it shows that you do pay attention to them. Men are just as self conscience as we are. Just show your man a good time. I know my man loves it when I buy him even the smallest thing that he may have only metioned only once then he gets all romantic. It is surprising how they will respond sometimes.
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reader, SolvingSally +, writes (18 February 2009):
Hi,
I had this problem before, do not worry. I know this may sound embarrassing but try to spice up your sex life and this may make him more affectionate and it will help you get on and relax.
Hope this helps,
Sally x
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