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The guy I've been seeing just asked about a threesome with my friend

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Question - (23 August 2018) 6 Answers - (Newest, 24 August 2018)
A female Ireland age 30-35, anonymous writes:

A guy I've been seeing for not long was talking to me tonight and he pulled up a pic on my social media and asked if it was my friend in the pic. I said yes and he said she looks familiar.

He then a few sentences later was asking if I wanted a threesome. Am I right in assuming he was asking after seeing this picture? My friend is the total opposite of me and I found it quite disturbing to say the least.

Do I run for the hills? ?? it's put me off completely

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (24 August 2018):

aunt honesty agony auntYes run for the hills and don't look back. He is not looking for a serious relationship with you.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (23 August 2018):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntOne question for you: is this all you think you are worth?

Just in case you are stalling answering, I will answer for you: NO. You are worth MUCH better.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2018):

Girlfriend, this is a no-brainer if ever I've seen one!

Your guy sat there and literally told you to your face he'd like to boink your friend! He threw you in for good-measure; but boy, does he have a lot balls!!! But few brains!

Why do you need advice on what to do? Are you considering the request? Say yes, and consider the possibility he might like her more. Not only that, imagine how she might look at you for even considering the possibility! It could change her whole perception of you; and she might even dump you as a friend! I know there would be some who would just say my opinion is old-fashioned or over the top. No...it isn't!

My advice comes from wisdom, and I use my knowledge and experience before sticking my nose in it. If you wanted your relationship to be monogamous; he's willing to make it otherwise! This isn't just spicing-up your love-life; this is having an open-relationship. Starting with your friends!

Threesomes lead to twosomes minus one!

My advice, don't introduce your girlfriend to her next boyfriend!

I don't know about you; but that would have ended the relationship on the spot! Here's a few reasons. It was a very bold request. He has openly suggested and acknowledged he finds your friend attractive enough to want sex with her. Now you feel insecure, and can't trust him. If you say no, what is he going to do about it?

I rest my case.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (23 August 2018):

Honeypie agony auntYep run for the hills.

He isn't looking to have a solid relationship he just wants access to your female friends for HIS sexual fantasies.

And like Ciar said, he is a creep... Going through your social media to pick out who he would like to sleep with? WTF? Like you and your friends are some kind of catalog of women he can BROWSE for sex?

Do you really think there is ANY doubt as to whether this is OK or not? Seriously?

I'd "ghost" him too. Block, delete and move on. While I normally is NOT a fan of "ghosting" someone... this creep doesn't deserve or need an explanation as to WHY you want nothing to do with him.

His behavior made me throw up in mt mouth a little. Gross.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (23 August 2018):

N91 agony auntOf course.

Do you really need help with this question?

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (23 August 2018):

Ciar agony auntGhost him. He's not even worth a 'good bye' email.

This is a clear sign he's not serious about you and he's a creep.

Have standards and live by them.

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