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writes:This sound so terriable and I know that before even asking. So please don't be to mean. I've been with my b/f for six years. I love him very much and he's a wonderful person. But were both young I'm 22 and he's 20. I have this friend whom I did used to sleep with when I was 16 and we've been talking alot lately. He wants us to hook up so bad for one last time. And I do to. But I don't wanna break up with my b/f for it cause I do love him. This is the first time I've ever even thought of sleeping with someone else. What should I do? Should I ignore the feeling and tell the other guy to buzz off, or should I try it and see what happens? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thanks all for your advice but I didn't do and told the other guy to buzz off. When it comes down to it losing my man ain't worth it. But thanks everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): Well, honestly, it sounds like you're going to do it anyways. So, you can either go behind your boyfriend's back and make love to this other guy, or you can talk to your current lover. Tell him that you want to have a threesome with him and another guy, and, if he does this for you, you can tell him that you'll let him have a threesome with you and another girl of his choosing.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 October 2008):
Tell him to buzz off. If you love your boyfriend then you shouldn't just be with him because he's there and it's been 6 years. You should be with him because he's the only one you want.
You can't have your cake and eat it.
You can't have your boring dependable boyfriend, and have hot sex with your old sex buddy.
Pick one and stick with it. People who try to have both are not nice and end up alone and typing on here asking where it all went wrong.
Have a read of all the other questions about "how do I get her back after I cheated!!?!?!?!?!?"
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Morp  +, writes (1 October 2008):
 Well if you love the present boy so much , why would you want to sleep with yer ex even if its for 1 last time. Im not mean to hurt what im saying . Im just saying if you want to sleep with your ex and you want to do it , i think you should not break your present BF heart cause as you go in years and build yourself and him together , you will just be scorned in deception of yourself that you cheated , and it hurts when you have those feelings in you. Be prepared , there is a saying you can have a gun just dont pull the trigger , cause when you pull the trigger you can never stop the bullet . Youre the trigger and your present BF is the bullet.
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reader, Morp +, writes (1 October 2008):
Well if you love the present boy so much , why would you want to sleep with yer ex even if its for 1 last time. Im not mean to hurt what im saying . Im just saying if you want to sleep with your ex and you want to do it , i think you should not break your present BF heart cause as you go in years and build yourself and him together , you will just be scorned in deception of yourself that you cheated , and it hurts when you have those feelings in you. Be prepared , there is a saying you can have a gun just dont pull the trigger , cause when you pull the trigger you can never stop the bullet . Youre the trigger and your present BF is the bullet.
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reader, Candie  +, writes (1 October 2008):
I say DON'T do it. Hooking up with him one last time will cause you trouble. Stick by your man, you love each other. So why ruin something so good?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): I have these feelings all the time with other men. I loved my boyfriend dearly but i just wanted to sleep with someone else. I didnt even want anything to come from it, I just wanted to sleep with someone else.the way i got through it was imagining if my boyfriend did that to me. Knowing that he still loved me but slept with someone else, and it really made me feel so sad inside, and i knew that i didn't want to be hurt like that so I wasn't going to hurt him in the same way.It's a really annoying feeling, wanting one hook - up with someone else, but the feeling does pass, you just have to be strong. One way you could get rid of these feelings is trying to role play with your partner - it gives the feeling of a new person being with you and thats what you could be yearning for. Role playing with my boyfriend helped me stop wanting to have sex with other men.Hope this helps x
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