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writes:Ok. Sorry its long, but its very complicated. So there is a guy i have liked for about 4 years now (since i first met him), lets call him a. He is really nice, kind, considerate, funny, all of that. Firstly he went out with one me my friends. Now i think of myself as a good friend, so i was very supportive towards them. When they broke up, i didnt really talk to him much for about a year or 2. Then about a year ago, he went out with another of my friends, lets call her b. Again i was supportive even though it hurt. They had a tough time and i ended up being the middle man in the relationship. When something went wrong, one of them would come to me and ask for help. I gave that help the best i could. I didnt let my feelings cloud my advice and helped them. Inevitably they broke up and i was left to pick up the pieces on both sides. A little while passed and i became good friends with him. He tells me everyone he likes. He went out with another friend and that failed, but i still said nothing. Now, he has told me he thinks he loves b. When he told me i felt like that was it. The world could of ended and i wouldn't of cared. Dramatic i know but i cant describe it any other way. It was horrible. He still says he is in love with her, though she says she would NEVER go near him again and takes the mickey out of him ALL the time, behind his back mostly. Now i am at a loss. I said i wanted to go prom with him, he said he didnt want to go with me. When my friend asked he said He said, Omg come on its 'my name' what guy would want to go out with her?' so... What do i do? I really like him. I dont want to say love because it will hurt me too much. What do i do?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (13 May 2010):
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reader, Blod +, writes (13 May 2010):
 I agree with raiders. He only sees you as a friend and it's hard to change how someone sees you, especially as his feelings for your friend are so strong. He can talk to you but it seems he's seeking advice about your friend more than anything.
You could tell him how you feel but that's a real risk. It could ruin your friendship and then you'd have nothing with him. But telling him you feel might make him think of you in a different way. To be completely honest though, if it's been this long and he hasn't realized then I doubt it'd work.
Your other option is to just carry on as his friend. That's so hard when you want more. But like raiders said, you need to be true to yourself and decide if you can handle just being friends. If not, then do something about it. You may really like him, but you deserve someone better if his feelings for you aren't the same.
Good luck with everything. You're in a really tough situation.
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reader, raiders +, writes (13 May 2010):
 You are his friend and he will only see you as a friend. You have to think if you want him in your life as a friend or as a boyfriend. Your in the friend list and I don't think he realizes that you like him. Since he already knows you want to go to prom with him ask him why doesn't he want to go with you..and get your answer. Hope this helps and good luck with prom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBy the way, I am sorry for the grammar, it was an auto titled piece.
Its not that he doesn't want to take me its that I don't know what to do.
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