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Tempted to get back with my ex, yet interested in a another girl...and I'm leaving for a job in Japan in 2 weeks! What do I do?

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Question - (14 February 2011) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My gf and I split up about 5/6 weeks ago and whilst it was very hard we realised that we both need different things in life but we are sort of staying in contact as we think there might be the potential to get back together at some point once we’ve (or I, I should say) figure what I want out of life. I am thinking of teaching abroad, maybe in Japan. Anyway, I am struggling to come to terms with not being with her but also feel that I am in need of this new start.

I think she may be slightly less willing to keep in contact as much as I want and is slowly backing off a bit. I now find myself in a position I’m not sure how to handle. I’m half tempted to go back to her but no I need to do new things in life which she doesn’t want. I am now also finding myself interested in a girl at work and am thinking about her (its very confusing as I am also thinking about my ex ) and am not sure if it is a rebound thing. But I am really attracted to this girl. Firstly I feel guilty for thinking these things so soon, but also, I am leaving this job in 2 weeks and am not sure if I should pursue this fancy? Or will it end up making things more difficult? I am hoping to leave the country around September – does this make any further endeavour a waste of time and an emotional risk?

I’ve never been in this boat before and am not sure what to do?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated,

Many thanks in advance!

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