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16-17,
*shygirlx
writes:hi guys,theres this teacher at school which has me kinda confused.He is always staring at me either down corridors or in the next room door.He smiles at me everytime.Brushes past me when he could of walked on the other side.One time i had revision on my own with him and he put music on and kept making me laugh, and if i take my phone out he copies.He saw a comment in my yearbook saying: "he(sir name) will go out with you someday" and he smiled and he then put:"i hope you achieve your goals". plz help aunts xx Reply to this Question |
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (25 June 2009):
 Well to save the embarrassment, i would recommend that you DON'T ask him how he feels about you.
Even if he does happen to 'like' you, he will just deny it. If he doesn't deny it, he's putting his job in danger because you then have the power to report his admission and lose him his job.
I very much doubt he would declare his love for you, if you were to confront him about it.
Think of the consequences if he lets say, laughed in your face? you would feel upset, maybe heartbroken. You would regret your actions and feel stupid. Not to mention the possibility that he may tell another member of staff and get you into trouble, via contacting your parents.
It isn't worth it love.
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reader, xshygirlx +, writes (24 June 2009):
xshygirlx is verified as being by the original poster of the question I want to ask him how he feels about me but I'm scared he won't like me back.but he's been showing signs he does he likes me.i'm just negative I suppose LOL xx
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (22 June 2009):
ahh okay :)
so the fact that this started before he found out you liked him and prior to you even feeling any emotions towards him, rules out the first possibility as stated in my last reply.
hmmmm... what exactly do you want to say to him; confess your feelings? ask how he feels about you? or just to say goodbye? think wisely before you even say a word to the guy, because this could result in unexpected consequences.
share a bit more detail and i'll give you some feedback
xx
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reader, xshygirlx +, writes (22 June 2009):
xshygirlx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey,it started before i even actually liked him.Then i started to fall for him and its been continuous ever since.But ive just finished school for good now and i want to say something to him but not sure if i should?xx
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (21 June 2009):
Hi :)
Well it does seem fairly obvious that there is some attraction between the pair of you. However, he does come across as slightly 'creepy' as some have already stated. The fact that he knows you like him may have boosted his ego, with the feeling of flattery and perhaps at the same time he's enjoying the attention from a young, female student such as yourself; which could indicate why he is being flirtacious with you, to boost his ego, and not because he has any further feelings for you than a student in his class. Just ask yourself when this behaviour started, was it after he found out you liked him?
Secondly, he may be like this around all female students. Some teachers are naturally flirty with students but don't mean anything by it, it's just a bit of fun and their way of showing off their sense of humor. Just keep a watch out on how he behaves with other female students, is it only around you that he acts this way?
You need to carefully consider the above. Teacher's rarely fall for students, if they do, they're seen as perverted.
When i was back at school, i felt as though i was in love with my teacher of interest. He'd look at me (alot) and the eye contact we shared was beautiful, i genuinely believed that he felt the same way. And it wasn't until he found out (through a letter written by myself) that i realised i had been living in a dream world, because after this, he would completely avoid me and felt very uncomfortable in my presence. The thing is, when you have such deep feelings for someone, you interpret every single action they do towards you and that's what i was doing. It made me depressed to think that he didn't like me back, so instead i decided that he liked me. But when i finally realised that he didn't, it became obvious to me that he was a genuine teacher and that he would never break the trust boundaries with students. I've had time to get over the pain, and infact, i really admire him now. He could have taken advantage of the fact i liked him, but he didn't. He simply reported me (got me in trouble) but it was something he HAD TO DO, in order to protect his job.
Do keep in touch :)
All the best xxx
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reader, xshygirlx +, writes (2 June 2009):
xshygirlx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes i do like him and he knows that as so many people have told him.But wat people are saying:if hes not interested he would avoid but hes not.i only had one revision session with him once.And once when i had a afterschool experiment with other years he kept looking in my eyes and he made a comment about him being strong and i laughed and he looked at me and smiled but it felt like slow motion and the other years even lower than me had a face like wat was that. Can you help me with that aunts?xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): [he(sir name) will go out with you someday" and he smiled and he then put:"i hope you achieve your goals". ] this shows that you are interested in him in a more sexual (??) way than just teacher/student. Right? you are playing with fire and dear, you will get burnt. this teacher will take up anything you offer so the horrible questions i am asking. Are you offering anything? What are you offering?
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reader, xCharliix +, writes (31 May 2009):
 do you like this teacher back?is it out of the blue?if you feel uncomfortable around him, then defo tell someone, yet if you feel it's doing no harm then just keep it to youself
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reader, scarlot  +, writes (30 May 2009):
 i would strongly advise you to tell somebody you trust about his behaviour.. It is illegal for a teacher to presue a relationship with a student... plus... you are so so young! his behaviour is totally wrong and its not your fault. you should definately tell somebody what happened
XxxX Scarlot
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reader, Ms.Helper +, writes (30 May 2009):
 He sounds like a creep. I had a teacher like this and he turned out to be a peadophile.
Just think about it... he's older, if not much older, he's your teacher.
He's your teacher, not your bestfriend.
He's there for one reason, and that's to teach, he has no right to act like he's your friend, fair enough being nice to you, but when it's just you and him and he's flirting?
But maybe he thinks your encouraging him, by going back for revision lessons when you kno it's only him there?
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