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Still in love and doing stuff with my ex of 5 years... but he doesn't seem to feel the same

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Question - (18 April 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 18 April 2007)
A male United States age 41-50, *anuk writes:

I was dating this guy five years ago. We both told each other that we loved one another, but then he ended it because he told me he didn't love me anymore. We decided to stay friends and everything was great. A year later we moved in to an apt. together because we were both needing a place. Things were great at first. Then he started complaining about not getting laid. He asked me to be his "wing man", and we started going out to the clubs to get him some action. The only way I was able to "work it" for him was to get a 3some going. he seemed fine with this at first, but then said it made him uncomfortable. I backed off of the subject. He still complained so I tried again. Each time he said he was uncomfortable because he needed to develop a level of comfort with a guy before he has sex with them, even though he and I did it on the first date. Later he was all about having me blow him, while not touching me at all, because I was "one of the few that knew how to get him off" because he has E.D.

I did it because I still think he is hot, but when I was the one wanting to do it, he refused saying he was not sexually attracted to me. I just wanna know what the deal is. he's been doing really shitty things like seeing the guy who dumped me last behind my back, ignoring me, and not being the type of friend that I have been to him, and I don't mean sexually. i bend over backwards for him, and he just seems so aloof and disinterested even though he will apologize and say how sorry he is. I just want to know if my friends are right and he still has as much of a thing for me as I do for him, or what. I am so without a clue as to what to do. I love him as my best friend and it terrifies me to loose him, but I really do want more. My friends seem to think he is just sewing his oats, but I dunno. I dunno what to do, but I am so miserable about it I am depressed all the time and just feel like nothing matters anymore in life.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007):

well I fink he does still like u allot!He is just scared 2 admit it,keep working on it and u will soon get the man of ur dreams!

Hope this helps!x

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A female reader, deejuliet United States +, writes (18 April 2007):

deejuliet agony auntHe is using you to masterbate. It is just that your mouth feels better than his hand. You might as well be a blow up doll for all he cares. Stick to being friends and forget about something more. In fact, if you are able to, I think you should really be looking for a new place to live and getting a bit of distance both emotionally and physically.

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