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male
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26-29,
evanejp
writes:Dear Cupid:I have been in a serious relationship for nearly two years. We have had our ups and downs as any relationship has, however, she has stated that space is a big source of contention for her, just as affection is for me. I admit that I sometimes have been clingy and not been receptive towards giving the space that she requires. About 4 weeks ago, we had an argument about this and she decided that she needed to work on her needs, alone, and that she wanted to be with me on a very limited basis. In turn, I told her that affection was a clear issue for me, and that it has slowly disapated to nothing. She stated that giving her space would allow her to be happier to see me and help her be more affectionate. Now it is 4 weeks later, and I have given her the space she requires, but she has become even less affectionate than before. We still communicate effectively, but my affection needs from her are not being met. When I bring this to her, she states she has no sex drive, and is under a great deal of stress. I believe that I have been extremely supportive of her, and what she needs to do for her life, however I feel that she is not supportive with what I need. I would like to continue with the relationship, but I am not sure what I need to do in this situation. Thank You
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reader, farsight +, writes (30 April 2007):
 Hey, there are certain types of people that need to be alone for a while just re energize themselves after being around people. She may be just going thru some hard times and just need sometime by herself. It really depends on what she’s going thru if she’s doing something that's draining her then of course she wouldn’t be as affectionate. With you sayin that she’s had 4 weeks re-adjust it sounds like she’s confused about something or just in to deep. Just make sure you don’t push her into making rash decisions(by putting to much on her plate). Sounds like she's obivously stressed out and has been needing alot of time to herself. She's got heal herself. Let her come to you and don’t put too much worrying on the situation. Just sit back and relax.
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